I think it's called Karma? Background: The support my ex was stipulated to pay was increased, substantially, on 2/1 The amount he actually paid did not go up. At all. His response, when I asked him about it, was "that's between the state and my employer. I have nothing to do with it" I spent … Continue reading When Bad Things Happen To Bad People
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Competitive Yoga, the Soul & Donuts
I am a competitive person. I inherited this from my father. Lest he deny this, I'll remind him of balloon volleyball. I had just moved into a new home with my 3 boys, all under the age of 10. The home had a huge room with concrete floors, a few windows and nothing else. My … Continue reading Competitive Yoga, the Soul & Donuts
Really??
Things I want to say today It's been a shit day. After a shit night. After another shit day. Here are some apologies, requests, and questions for the world. Mailwoman: I am sorry you can't get to my mailbox. My bad - not yours! I pray you don't stress about the fact that you couldn't … Continue reading Really??
How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
(As always, substitute her if you are a guy) I thought it might be fun for some of us regulars to share how our ex introduced his adulterer to our kids. I'll go first. I'll tell it from my point of view and his point of view (his in red. Like Scarlet Letter Red) ME: … Continue reading How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
Cancer Saved My Life
I received the transcript from my spouse's deposition today, and I started reading it. I was floored on the 1st page, when he spoke about how our divorce came about. I remember the moment as if it happened yesterday. It is forever seared into my brain. It was 9:20AM. I was in the kitchen preparing … Continue reading Cancer Saved My Life
How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
Here I sit, on the precipice of a new year, and all I can think is What The Fuck?? How did I get here? How did I become the one people whisper about in the grocery store. “Oh, you remember her, she’s about to lose her house, and I know...it makes no sense. How did … Continue reading How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
Damn! I just read what I wrote the other day about the counter-offer my covert narc spouse made me. When I wrote that post I was clear that this offer was a manipulation and game playing on his part. But somewhere during the past day or two, I've become distracted. Perhaps it was my lawyer … Continue reading Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
The Narc Never Gives Up
If you've been following me you know I'm trying to divorce a covert narcissist, with whom I own a restaurant. We had a hearing with a Master and the Masters recommendation, while totally screwing me over, was enough for me to attempt another negotiation. So I sent an offer, in line with what the Master … Continue reading The Narc Never Gives Up
Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Here is the actual truth about divorce: while both parties come out of it poorer than before, the party with a conscience will walk away totally screwed. Divorce does not turn out the way our media portrays it. My brother likens my divorce to the movie 127 Hours. Based on a real story, this movie … Continue reading Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Healing a Bankrupted Soul
I've read so many articles stating that if you are divorcing a narcissist, just cut your losses and walk away. Every single author says the same thing: you are fighting a losing battle, you will never win, and you will walk away financially bankrupt if you try to fight him. I agree with all of … Continue reading Healing a Bankrupted Soul
Groomed but Escaped 