After 2 1/2 years of this divorce process you'd think I would be over the pain. After all that has happened, during our marriage and during the divorce, I am still amazed when I feel like I've taken a dagger to my heart. I know my spouse is a psychopath. I know he messed … Continue reading Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts
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Divorce, Foreclosure & the USPS
What, you ask, is this picture? It is the 11 pieces of mail, mailed on the same day. (In case that is not clear, each one is dated November 30, 2016, by the bank that sent them.) Half were sent certified, the other half regular mail. All were sent by our mortgage lender. So many issues....where … Continue reading Divorce, Foreclosure & the USPS
Adultary & Bed Bugs
If you are in a relationship with an adulterer, there is the chance you will have to deal with bed bugs at some point. I had the joy of this while going through chemotherapy. When I first started seeing streaks of blood on my sheets I assumed it was because of my surgery. By the … Continue reading Adultary & Bed Bugs
Divorce By Numbers
Divorce in PA Assuming you & your spouse are unable/unwilling to negotiate settlement terms, your next step will be going to a "Master". This is a lawyer who had been appointed by the court to review your case and state what they think the outcome will be if you go to trial. If either … Continue reading Divorce By Numbers
Why Cheaters Cheat
I've been looking for a new therapist (insurance change) and I stumbled upon one who seemed ideal. She takes my insurance, she deals with relationships and divorce, etc. She also had a youtube video, which I decided to watch before I called her office. The video is taken while she's speaking to an auditorium of … Continue reading Why Cheaters Cheat
Divorce Hell
Thursday I had a hearing with domestic relations to determine child support/temporary spousal support. This is the 1st hearing my spouse and I have been in with our attorney's, and I've been in bed since. It is shocking how callous the players are in this process. My attorney was appropriate, but his attorney and the … Continue reading Divorce Hell
Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
Damn! I just read what I wrote the other day about the counter-offer my covert narc spouse made me. When I wrote that post I was clear that this offer was a manipulation and game playing on his part. But somewhere during the past day or two, I've become distracted. Perhaps it was my lawyer … Continue reading Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
The Narc Never Gives Up
If you've been following me you know I'm trying to divorce a covert narcissist, with whom I own a restaurant. We had a hearing with a Master and the Masters recommendation, while totally screwing me over, was enough for me to attempt another negotiation. So I sent an offer, in line with what the Master … Continue reading The Narc Never Gives Up
Grrrrrrr
I can't even believe I'm writing this..... I've been on disability since 2010. This will never change. I have an unidentified glitch in my immune system and, combined with my allergies, asthma , and COPD, I suffer repeated bouts of lung/sinus infections. In case you need a visual of how this results in disability, my … Continue reading Grrrrrrr
Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Here is the actual truth about divorce: while both parties come out of it poorer than before, the party with a conscience will walk away totally screwed. Divorce does not turn out the way our media portrays it. My brother likens my divorce to the movie 127 Hours. Based on a real story, this movie … Continue reading Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Groomed but Escaped 