I can’t even believe I’m writing this…..
I’ve been on disability since 2010. This will never change. I have an unidentified glitch in my immune system and, combined with my allergies, asthma , and COPD, I suffer repeated bouts of lung/sinus infections. In case you need a visual of how this results in disability, my spouse had to fire me from our jointly owned business because I couldn’t be relied upon to cover the shifts I was given. (technically he didn’t “fire” me; we jointly agreed that it was no longer feasible to employ me given my unreliability)
I am not happy about being on disability. It sucks that after earning a Master’s degree and having some really good jobs I’ve been reduced to a life as a consumer, not a producer. I’ve been yearning for a job that is only a few hours a week, flexible, has no deadlines and can wait for 4 days if I’m sick. Not surprisingly, these are few and far between. Today I was offered that job. And, it’s at my yoga studio, a place I love to be.
Here’s the Grrrrr part…..
The court has recommended that I and my son get 43% of our families income, while my hopefully soon to be ex retains 57%. Yes, this is how divorce works in America.
If I take this job, which I really want, I will keep 43% of the income and he will get 57%. Those wages will added into our “family income”, the math will be done, and he will get a reduction in alimony.
I’m trying really hard to re-frame this in my head. I’m trying not to focus on the fact that my working will allow him and his GF to go out even more, because I really want the job, but man. Arghhhhh!
Here I am, 55 years old and well educated, yet the words I rely on the most lately are Grrrrr & arghhhhh. & I’ll add a WTF just for a bit of emphasis.
PS: My ex bastard has not even agreed to the 43/57% yet. I’m guessing he won’t as he’ll see it as unfair to him. So yes, there’s that.
The clusterfuck continues.
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Wtf is right…It’s a tough choice for sure
I can delay a day or two but frankly it doesn’t matter. If he finds out I’m earning anything, even if it’s only $75/week he’ll file for a change in alimony. Sucks.
Is there any way you can wait to accept the job offer?
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