Life After Long Term Narcissistic Abuse

  I spent 24 with a covert narcissist.  This was after growing up with a covert narcissist and an alcoholic.  I am 6 years, 3 months from the date my covert narc moved out, and I believe I am now in the final stage of recovery.  Of course I thought I was in the last … Continue reading Life After Long Term Narcissistic Abuse

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The Permanence Of Heartbreak

(background info- my brothers beach house is next door to my mothers, and there is constant competition about who is staying with her, and she gets pretty crazy when I stay with my brother, which I do most often because, well...she's sort of crazy)   Five years later there are still times I  can't breathe.  … Continue reading The Permanence Of Heartbreak

Divorcing a Narcissist – Ultimate Cluster***k

This is for one of my BFF's, who is taking the initial steps towards divorcing her narc.   HANG IN THERE!   Remember when I brought enough alcohol for 3 of us to the ball field, then drank it all myself and your son had to drive me home? Remember me crying when he stopped … Continue reading Divorcing a Narcissist – Ultimate Cluster***k

Words and Narcissistic Abuse

I didn't understand the power of words until I started recovering from narcissistic abuse.  My therapist started dissecting my language, and slowly I learned how toxic the narc (and other disordered people) are in their use of language.  I had put this issue aside until a co-worker started going through the separation/divorce process.  She started … Continue reading Words and Narcissistic Abuse

Surviving Divorce from the Narcissist

I have a good friend with whom I share many of my inner most thoughts, pretty or not.  One of these thoughts was the idea that I wanted to "win" my divorce.  I've decided (hopefully) that this is a very human, not at all unusual thought, especially among those who have been abused. It was … Continue reading Surviving Divorce from the Narcissist

Be Proactive with Narcissist

I was advised, early in my divorce, to take control of the process.  Close accounts, force issues, freeze assets, etc.  I didn't, because I was conditioned to not threaten my narcissist.  I had been taught to think that revenge would be horrible.  I say conditioned because in retrospect, I can count on 1 hand the … Continue reading Be Proactive with Narcissist