I was advised, early in my divorce, to take control of the process. Close accounts, force issues, freeze assets, etc. I didn't, because I was conditioned to not threaten my narcissist. I had been taught to think that revenge would be horrible. I say conditioned because in retrospect, I can count on 1 hand the … Continue reading Be Proactive with Narcissist
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The Narcissist-Four Years Later
REVENGE People say that the best revenge after divorce is to live your best life. While it's not perfect, I am definitely living the best life I've ever lived. I still struggle with my health (life long battle thanks to the steady barrage of gas lighting from my ex narc), but aside from that, … Continue reading The Narcissist-Four Years Later
Cheaters & Liars
Strange story - in the last episode of the Connor's Jackie figured out that her boyfriend was cheating on her, and she kicked him to the curb. Watching this took me down memory lane. Everything he says to her is something my ex said to me. Things like: if you accuse me of cheating you're … Continue reading Cheaters & Liars
What I Meant to Do – January 1
I've begun this year obsessed with clearing out the clutter in my home. I have a 4 story townhouse which I purchased thinking I would rent out the loft - a large bedroom with it's own bathroom, spectacular light and a pretty view. When I first moved in I let my 16 year old move … Continue reading What I Meant to Do – January 1
Finding Myself in Silence
I returned from a solo trip to Mexico 5 days ago. I went to be part of the Dia De Los Muertos celebrations (day of the dead). It turned out that this celebration was the least impactful part of the trip. I've been struggling to put into words what I discovered, but how do … Continue reading Finding Myself in Silence
Escaping Narcissistic Abuse – the Mt. Everest of Recovery
If you are stuck in a toxic relationship, there are concrete steps you can take to escape. Comparing this endeavor to climbing Mt. Everest, here is a list of steps to take to begin recovery. Using these steps to establish a new base camp for your life.
Turn Your Town Teal
#teamtealsix #cancersucks #ovariancancer #sandyrollman #randomactsofteal #tealisthenewpink Purpose What do you do when the shit is all cleaned up? The divorce is final, your body and soul have healed, you're settled into your new home, your new tribe is established? When it's all over, something new sets in. I would describe it as boredom, but it … Continue reading Turn Your Town Teal
The Tractor
Him He pulled up to the house in his Cadillac. He parked it on the street and checked the carport to make sure she wasn’t home. He caressed the car as he left it, filled with pride that it was his, reveling in the fact that while she would have fought against its purchase, she … Continue reading The Tractor
Lies, Misrepresentation, and General Run Around
I am on medicare, and I have a number of health conditions, each requiring brand name medications. I pay $83.90/month for additional prescription coverage. I won't go into the details of medicare, except to say that when they have paid a certain amount, you enter what they call the "coverage gap". At this point you … Continue reading Lies, Misrepresentation, and General Run Around
Bloom Like an Orchid
Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse A friend gave me this orchid last September. She told me Orchids require sun, so I put it on a shelf by my front door that gets light. Then I waited. And waited. And waited. A few months later, two leaves were cracked, one with what appeared to be a … Continue reading Bloom Like an Orchid
Groomed but Escaped 