I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband. I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce". They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist
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When Bad Things Happen To Bad People
I think it's called Karma? Background: The support my ex was stipulated to pay was increased, substantially, on 2/1 The amount he actually paid did not go up. At all. His response, when I asked him about it, was "that's between the state and my employer. I have nothing to do with it" I spent … Continue reading When Bad Things Happen To Bad People
The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.
My ex, a covert narcissist, took a low paying job rather than work for more in our business. He did this just as it was time to start support negotiations. He claims he is selling our business (a restaurant) because he has to work too many hours, and he's getting too old - he needs … Continue reading The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.
Another Win for the Narcissist
My ex and I reached a settlement on 1/25 of this year. As of 2/1 he was supposed to increase the amount of support he's paying. A substantial increase. In return, I'm to pay the mortgage while selling the house. All of which is what I wanted, and all of which is manageable. Except...... His … Continue reading Another Win for the Narcissist
I’m Moving On!!!!
What a week! In my wildest dreams I could not have envisioned the week I've had. Three Huge Things Happened. I'll explain them in reverse. The 3rd thing happened today. Today I had another divorce hearing. I assumed it would amount to nothing, especially when my attorney called me at 9AM to tell me … Continue reading I’m Moving On!!!!
Cancer Saved My Life
I received the transcript from my spouse's deposition today, and I started reading it. I was floored on the 1st page, when he spoke about how our divorce came about. I remember the moment as if it happened yesterday. It is forever seared into my brain. It was 9:20AM. I was in the kitchen preparing … Continue reading Cancer Saved My Life
The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
During this 3rd year of my separation I've become increasingly reclusive, and I haven't been sure why. The other night I figured it out. I was talking to a friend who had just scarfed down 2 bagels and pound of M & M's and was in a shame spiral. I'm the ideal person to call … Continue reading The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
The Joy of A Deposition
I wasn't there, but if the way my attorney describes it is accurate, we made a narcissist sweat his balls off today!! &, while it is probably bad Karma to gloat about this, after everything he's put me through over the past 25 years I sort of feel like I'm entitled to a bit … Continue reading The Joy of A Deposition
Divorce By Numbers
Divorce in PA Assuming you & your spouse are unable/unwilling to negotiate settlement terms, your next step will be going to a "Master". This is a lawyer who had been appointed by the court to review your case and state what they think the outcome will be if you go to trial. If either … Continue reading Divorce By Numbers
Grrrrrrr
I can't even believe I'm writing this..... I've been on disability since 2010. This will never change. I have an unidentified glitch in my immune system and, combined with my allergies, asthma , and COPD, I suffer repeated bouts of lung/sinus infections. In case you need a visual of how this results in disability, my … Continue reading Grrrrrrr
Groomed but Escaped 