Alimony & The Narcissist

I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband.   I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce".    They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist

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When Bad Things Happen To Bad People

I think it's called Karma? Background: The support my ex was stipulated to pay was increased, substantially, on 2/1 The amount he actually paid did not go up.  At all. His response, when I asked him about it, was "that's between the state and my employer.  I have nothing to do with it" I spent … Continue reading When Bad Things Happen To Bad People

The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.

My ex, a covert narcissist, took a low paying job rather than work for more in our business.  He did this just as it was time to start support negotiations.  He claims he is selling our business (a restaurant) because he has to work too many hours, and he's getting too old - he needs … Continue reading The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.

Another Win for the Narcissist

My ex and I reached a settlement on 1/25 of this year.  As of 2/1 he was supposed to increase the amount of support he's paying.  A substantial increase.  In return, I'm to pay the mortgage while selling the house.  All of which is what I wanted, and all of which is manageable. Except...... His … Continue reading Another Win for the Narcissist

The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist

During this 3rd year of my separation I've become increasingly reclusive, and I haven't been sure why.  The other night I figured it out. I was talking to a friend who had just scarfed down 2 bagels and pound of M & M's and was in a shame spiral.  I'm the ideal person to call … Continue reading The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist