My ex and I reached a settlement on 1/25 of this year. As of 2/1 he was supposed to increase the amount of support he's paying. A substantial increase. In return, I'm to pay the mortgage while selling the house. All of which is what I wanted, and all of which is manageable. Except...... His … Continue reading Another Win for the Narcissist
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The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
During this 3rd year of my separation I've become increasingly reclusive, and I haven't been sure why. The other night I figured it out. I was talking to a friend who had just scarfed down 2 bagels and pound of M & M's and was in a shame spiral. I'm the ideal person to call … Continue reading The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
Divorce By Numbers
Divorce in PA Assuming you & your spouse are unable/unwilling to negotiate settlement terms, your next step will be going to a "Master". This is a lawyer who had been appointed by the court to review your case and state what they think the outcome will be if you go to trial. If either … Continue reading Divorce By Numbers
Divorce Hell
Thursday I had a hearing with domestic relations to determine child support/temporary spousal support. This is the 1st hearing my spouse and I have been in with our attorney's, and I've been in bed since. It is shocking how callous the players are in this process. My attorney was appropriate, but his attorney and the … Continue reading Divorce Hell
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I can't even believe I'm writing this..... I've been on disability since 2010. This will never change. I have an unidentified glitch in my immune system and, combined with my allergies, asthma , and COPD, I suffer repeated bouts of lung/sinus infections. In case you need a visual of how this results in disability, my … Continue reading Grrrrrrr
Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism
I have 23 years of a relationship with a covert narcissist (CN) to dissect, and the question I keep asking my therapist is "are you sure?" How can you be sure he really is a CN, and I'm not just re-writing our story? What proof do you have that I didn't deserve to be treated … Continue reading Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism
Groomed but Escaped 