Divorce in PA Assuming you & your spouse are unable/unwilling to negotiate settlement terms, your next step will be going to a "Master". This is a lawyer who had been appointed by the court to review your case and state what they think the outcome will be if you go to trial. If either … Continue reading Divorce By Numbers
Wake Up Gurl!
ReTraining My Feelings
I had the privilege of meeting with some young men who are working on a social media awareness campaign to help women with ovarian cancer. As a survivor, I was asked to join many of the other women in our group to talk with them about our experiences and needs. A unique aspect of ovarian … Continue reading ReTraining My Feelings
I Learned Tolerance From A Minority in A Gun Shop
A few bits of business before I start: I don't care who you voted for. This is not an anti-Trump blog I am buying a gun. I hope I don't have to use it, but I plan to be prepared. I, and my son, are taking fire arm safety classes I am afraid of the … Continue reading I Learned Tolerance From A Minority in A Gun Shop
Why Cheaters Cheat
I've been looking for a new therapist (insurance change) and I stumbled upon one who seemed ideal. She takes my insurance, she deals with relationships and divorce, etc. She also had a youtube video, which I decided to watch before I called her office. The video is taken while she's speaking to an auditorium of … Continue reading Why Cheaters Cheat
Is This A Boundary Issue?
My oldest son moved into an apartment with his girlfriend (GF) in September. I adore his GF, but I don't feel well equipped to judge the health of a relationship. My son can be difficult to live with. He, like me, is a bit of a neat freak, and he gets easily upset when he's … Continue reading Is This A Boundary Issue?
Divorce Hell
Thursday I had a hearing with domestic relations to determine child support/temporary spousal support. This is the 1st hearing my spouse and I have been in with our attorney's, and I've been in bed since. It is shocking how callous the players are in this process. My attorney was appropriate, but his attorney and the … Continue reading Divorce Hell
Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
Damn! I just read what I wrote the other day about the counter-offer my covert narc spouse made me. When I wrote that post I was clear that this offer was a manipulation and game playing on his part. But somewhere during the past day or two, I've become distracted. Perhaps it was my lawyer … Continue reading Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
The Narc Never Gives Up
If you've been following me you know I'm trying to divorce a covert narcissist, with whom I own a restaurant. We had a hearing with a Master and the Masters recommendation, while totally screwing me over, was enough for me to attempt another negotiation. So I sent an offer, in line with what the Master … Continue reading The Narc Never Gives Up
Choice or Necessity?
I've just received a year's worth of credit card statements from my Hopefully Soon To Be Ex. He is claiming that these charges were necessary, paid by the line of credit on our house, and should be repaid prior to the division of profits from the sale of the home. Once again I find myself … Continue reading Choice or Necessity?
Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Here is the actual truth about divorce: while both parties come out of it poorer than before, the party with a conscience will walk away totally screwed. Divorce does not turn out the way our media portrays it. My brother likens my divorce to the movie 127 Hours. Based on a real story, this movie … Continue reading Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Groomed but Escaped 