I've been looking for a new therapist (insurance change) and I stumbled upon one who seemed ideal. She takes my insurance, she deals with relationships and divorce, etc. She also had a youtube video, which I decided to watch before I called her office. The video is taken while she's speaking to an auditorium of … Continue reading Why Cheaters Cheat
Wake Up Gurl!
Is This A Boundary Issue?
My oldest son moved into an apartment with his girlfriend (GF) in September. I adore his GF, but I don't feel well equipped to judge the health of a relationship. My son can be difficult to live with. He, like me, is a bit of a neat freak, and he gets easily upset when he's … Continue reading Is This A Boundary Issue?
Divorce Hell
Thursday I had a hearing with domestic relations to determine child support/temporary spousal support. This is the 1st hearing my spouse and I have been in with our attorney's, and I've been in bed since. It is shocking how callous the players are in this process. My attorney was appropriate, but his attorney and the … Continue reading Divorce Hell
Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
Damn! I just read what I wrote the other day about the counter-offer my covert narc spouse made me. When I wrote that post I was clear that this offer was a manipulation and game playing on his part. But somewhere during the past day or two, I've become distracted. Perhaps it was my lawyer … Continue reading Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
The Narc Never Gives Up
If you've been following me you know I'm trying to divorce a covert narcissist, with whom I own a restaurant. We had a hearing with a Master and the Masters recommendation, while totally screwing me over, was enough for me to attempt another negotiation. So I sent an offer, in line with what the Master … Continue reading The Narc Never Gives Up
Choice or Necessity?
I've just received a year's worth of credit card statements from my Hopefully Soon To Be Ex. He is claiming that these charges were necessary, paid by the line of credit on our house, and should be repaid prior to the division of profits from the sale of the home. Once again I find myself … Continue reading Choice or Necessity?
Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Here is the actual truth about divorce: while both parties come out of it poorer than before, the party with a conscience will walk away totally screwed. Divorce does not turn out the way our media portrays it. My brother likens my divorce to the movie 127 Hours. Based on a real story, this movie … Continue reading Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
The Perils of Writing
I often find, when having a conversation with someone, lots of other thoughts arise. So it was this morning at my yoga studio. I had been working on a blog about the studio, and I had sent it to the owners to read before I posted it. Several of my yoga blogs have been posted … Continue reading The Perils of Writing
Regrets
Today, on my 55th birthday, I find myself looking back at what I expected my life to look versus what is does look like. What I expected was a career as a Psychologist, living a fulfilling life helping others, while remaining single. What I got was very different. I wish I could blame it all … Continue reading Regrets
Are we People or Puppets?
I just heard Robin Roberts (GMA) say this regarding last nights debate, and it's effect on voters: "Later we'll hear from the people who might decide this election. Um...will decide this election" I'm not usually one to buy into conspiracy theories, but I have to say, this got me wondering. Did she mistakenly let … Continue reading Are we People or Puppets?
Groomed but Escaped 