Here I sit, on the precipice of a new year, and all I can think is What The Fuck?? How did I get here? How did I become the one people whisper about in the grocery store. “Oh, you remember her, she’s about to lose her house, and I know...it makes no sense. How did … Continue reading How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
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The Covert Narcissist & Lies
Wow. Just......wow. 10 days ago my narc was caught lying. He lied about his income and his affairs. He stormed out of a deposition because he was confronted with evidence about his affairs. He admitted to hiding income, lying about selling our business, and withholding pertinent information. Lies on top of lies. Since he … Continue reading The Covert Narcissist & Lies
The Joy of A Deposition
I wasn't there, but if the way my attorney describes it is accurate, we made a narcissist sweat his balls off today!! &, while it is probably bad Karma to gloat about this, after everything he's put me through over the past 25 years I sort of feel like I'm entitled to a bit … Continue reading The Joy of A Deposition
Why Cheaters Cheat
I've been looking for a new therapist (insurance change) and I stumbled upon one who seemed ideal. She takes my insurance, she deals with relationships and divorce, etc. She also had a youtube video, which I decided to watch before I called her office. The video is taken while she's speaking to an auditorium of … Continue reading Why Cheaters Cheat
Divorce Hell
Thursday I had a hearing with domestic relations to determine child support/temporary spousal support. This is the 1st hearing my spouse and I have been in with our attorney's, and I've been in bed since. It is shocking how callous the players are in this process. My attorney was appropriate, but his attorney and the … Continue reading Divorce Hell
Time
Never have I been more confused about my feeling of time than the past 3 years. Did that happen yesterday or last year? Did I say that today or last week? It's as if the time chip in my brain is on the fritz. I keep searching for it, going round and round in my … Continue reading Time
Divorce Attorneys: The Truth
I am cursed with the belief that when dealing with an adult, I'm being told the truth. I would think that by now I'd be over that, having been repeatedly lied to by my spouse, but no, I still take adults' words at face value. Given this, I believed my attorney when he expressed outrage … Continue reading Divorce Attorneys: The Truth
Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
The Circus versus the Magician I just spent time with my uncle, a bon-a-fide covert narcissist of the somatic sub-type (obsessed with his looks & physical prowess). I had planned to work on implementing boundaries, but it took little time to realize I was fighting a losing battle. At the end of my time … Continue reading Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
What Was I Thinking?
When my spouse 1st left me and gave me his proposal for support and division of property, I was horrified. It was so clear that his intent was to walk away and wash his hands of responsibility for me and his children. It was such a horrible offer, I didn't even consider it. How stupid … Continue reading What Was I Thinking?
Let’s Talk FaceBook
A few background facts: I own a restaurant with my soon to be ex (stbx). My savings and good credit partially funded it, I helped open it, I did the books for years, and I showed up when it was understaffed and waited tables. My stbx cheated on me repeatedly during out marriage. He was … Continue reading Let’s Talk FaceBook
Groomed but Escaped 