This is for one of my BFF's, who is taking the initial steps towards divorcing her narc. HANG IN THERE! Remember when I brought enough alcohol for 3 of us to the ball field, then drank it all myself and your son had to drive me home? Remember me crying when he stopped … Continue reading Divorcing a Narcissist – Ultimate Cluster***k
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Rage
(see update at bottom) I grew up with people subject to rage, and then married a man who did the same thing. Here's the thing about rage: it's all about control. Rage is not an expression of anger, it is a show put on by a disordered person, designed to flip the script; to … Continue reading Rage
Sweaty McSweaterson
I don't often answer my phone. When it rings, I look at it. If it's a caller I don't know, I hit silence and go about my business. If it is someone I do know I make a conscious choice to talk or ignore them. At times during my divorce proceedings, my lawyer was among … Continue reading Sweaty McSweaterson
Impenetrable Boundaries
Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist. This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were. I know - seems mighty innocuous, right? … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries
Oprah & the Covert Narcissist
What is the Truth? I've been trying for 3 days to write a blog about Oprah's Golden Globe speech without referencing my ex narc. Alas, it is not meant to be. I am compelled to write about the intersection of my ex narc and Oprah. Quick background - my ex left his 1st wife … Continue reading Oprah & the Covert Narcissist
Bank Of America – Power Mongers
Not sure what a PS is when put before the blog, but had to add this information I stumbled across. It is all a scam, with tax payers $. https://www.hbsslaw.com/cases/bank-of-america-rico/pressrelease/bank-of-america-rico-appeals-court-reverses-rico-fraud-class-action-against-bank-of-america-allowing-homeowners-lawsuit-to-proceed Bank Of America. Wow. Just wow. The details are complicated, so I'll try to sum up what has happened quickly. I was … Continue reading Bank Of America – Power Mongers
Manipulation or Management
I was talking to an acquaintance about issues raising children, like getting them on the bus. She was having trouble with her son, and she had implemented some new rules. She said she wasn't sure if she was manipulating or managing him, and I was struck by this idea. Manipulation, in our society, has a … Continue reading Manipulation or Management
13 Projects
Yes - obviously plagiarized, but I think with merit. I recently decided to part ways with my realtor. I interviewed 3 new realtors, and 2 of the 3 told me I needed to undo one of my favorite features of my house: the wallpapered risers on the staircase. This will be my final project, because … Continue reading 13 Projects
The Narcissist Describes Love
This is a "love letter" written by a narcissist. It's a great read. This week I had dinner with my old nanny. She was part of our lives for the 1st 5 years of our marriage. She told me she missed how great we were as a family, she loved how much fun we had … Continue reading The Narcissist Describes Love
Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
How To Survive Divorcing a Narcissistic Asshole In the Order You'll Face Them (I say guy, could be girl) If you are like me, you are heading in to a divorce with someone you suspect is a Bad Guy, perhaps a narcissist. Trust me when I tell you: If you suspect it, it is true. … Continue reading Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
Groomed but Escaped 