https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/36952273/posts/1016561972 I happens so gradually, you don't understand what is happening. While it seems to others like he is bragging about your latest accomplishment, you somehow understand what he is really saying: shut it down. This is way too much about you. So there is the stress of being on eggshells on all times, … Continue reading The Insidious Take Down
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Narcissists Love A Good Show!
One of the reasons we get hooked by the covert narc is that they take every Public Opportunity to be the Good Guy. Everyone raves about what a great guy they are, because everything they do is in public. This week is the perfect example, and thank God, I see it for what it is. … Continue reading Narcissists Love A Good Show!
Hard Not to Wallow
2 Months before our 23rd anniversary: Divorce requested by him 3/31/14. Denial of affair. Flowers sent to GH 4/4/14; receipt found by me 4/6. 4/14/14 - made him move out; told the kids. 4/2015 - vacation with the GF. Celebrating 1 year official anniversary? 5/2015 - GF introduced to kids. Always with them now. 7/2015 … Continue reading Hard Not to Wallow
Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism
I have 23 years of a relationship with a covert narcissist (CN) to dissect, and the question I keep asking my therapist is "are you sure?" How can you be sure he really is a CN, and I'm not just re-writing our story? What proof do you have that I didn't deserve to be treated … Continue reading Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism
Quite A Show
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3UjJ4wKLkg&list=RDJ3UjJ4wKLkg#t=0 Rhianna sums it up. You Put on Quite a Show It's really entertaining..... For me this has been one of the most difficult aspects of the relationship with the covert narc to come to terms with. The idea that it was all just a show, that he actually had no feelings for me, … Continue reading Quite A Show
Why I Stayed with My Covert Narcissist
Human Doormat Syndrome I suffer from Human Doormat Syndrome (HDS). I'm thinking of starting a recovery program for fellow sufferers. Like AA, we could come together in a circle, take turns saying "Hi. I'm MurphyCee and I am a Human Doormat". Then we could share our stories of how we've willingly allowed others to … Continue reading Why I Stayed with My Covert Narcissist
My Go-To Sites: Education is the Key
Recovering from narcissistic abuse requires knowledge. You have to understand what you were up against, how you got there, why you are so confused, what is real and what is not, and where to go from here. Some of my favorite resources are: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201412/is-your-partner-narcissist-here-are-50-ways-tell http://ladywithatruck.com/the-3-phases-of-a-relationship-with-a-narcisist/ http://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/yourmentalhealth/2015/10/15/recovering-from-narcissistic-abuse-without-validation/ http://relationshipedia.me/ http://www.narcissismaddictionsabuse.com/index.html http://thenarcissisticlife.com/victims-of-npd-relationships-stages-of-recovery/ http://christinehammondcounseling.com/2015/01/13/how-narcissists-use-money-to-abuse/ https://www.psychopathfree.com/content.php?298-Working-Through-Rage-After-Abuse https://www.psychotherapy.net/article/complex-ptsd#section-emotional-neglect:-a-primary-cause-of-complex-ptsd? http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/02/24/shame-guilt-neurotic-manipulation/ … Continue reading My Go-To Sites: Education is the Key
Groomed but Escaped 