Do you think that the paper dry cleaners use when they preserve your wedding dress is meant to serve as lighter fluid? Because it does! I've been back and forth about what to do with that stupid dress. I threw away the box a while ago, and the dress, in it's plastic laundry bag, has … Continue reading Up In Flames
Wake Up Gurl!
Alone in a Room Full Of People
That's how I feel. It makes no difference how many people are there, I'm different. It doesn't matter how much I write about it, how freely I talk about it, how many people ask me how I am or say they're there for me. I'm alone in a room full of people. I can't talk … Continue reading Alone in a Room Full Of People
Oopps I Did It Again
I Was Narced Again! My children learned from their dad how to talk me down, get their way, mess with my head. I call it "narcing". (Actually, I call it their dad's name + ing but here I'll call it narcing) My two boys who have been with me full time the past 2 years … Continue reading Oopps I Did It Again
Forgiveness: Not For The Narcissist
I'm feeling a bit angry right now. If you don't follow my blog, here's the key points to know: 1) I spent 25 years with, and am now divorcing, a covert narcissist 2) Yoga has become one of my coping techniques 3) I live in a small community, and me & the ex-narc have … Continue reading Forgiveness: Not For The Narcissist
Mt. Everest
I've been writing about my recovery (much more than what I've posted) and it dawned on me that this Trek we are on, recovering from narcissistic abuse, might be similar to submitting Mt. Everest. Once the idea occurred to me I started reading up on Everest and I am stunned by much of what I … Continue reading Mt. Everest
Healing a Bankrupted Soul
I've read so many articles stating that if you are divorcing a narcissist, just cut your losses and walk away. Every single author says the same thing: you are fighting a losing battle, you will never win, and you will walk away financially bankrupt if you try to fight him. I agree with all of … Continue reading Healing a Bankrupted Soul
Journey vs. Trek
I've hated the word "journey" ever since I was diagnosed with cancer. When first diagnosed, you enter a surreal world in which you are purported to be many things you are not: a hero, a fighter, a warrior, an inspiration, and on a journey. It's crazy, because it happens in no other medical condition; … Continue reading Journey vs. Trek
The Insidious Take Down
https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/36952273/posts/1016561972 I happens so gradually, you don't understand what is happening. While it seems to others like he is bragging about your latest accomplishment, you somehow understand what he is really saying: shut it down. This is way too much about you. So there is the stress of being on eggshells on all times, … Continue reading The Insidious Take Down
Signs I Saw But Never Connected
Narcissists Love A Good Show!
One of the reasons we get hooked by the covert narc is that they take every Public Opportunity to be the Good Guy. Everyone raves about what a great guy they are, because everything they do is in public. This week is the perfect example, and thank God, I see it for what it is. … Continue reading Narcissists Love A Good Show!
Groomed but Escaped 