Life Is Not Fair

Remember when we were kids and when we complained "life's not fair"?   We'd hear "life's not fair, then you die".  Turns out this is not a good thing to say to a child who's mother has cancer.    I've said it a few times to my 14 year old, and I finally looked as … Continue reading Life Is Not Fair

Start Here

Often I am so overwhelmed with pain, confusion and fear that I make no progress.  I see no end to the pain caused by my covert narcissist; I see no future in which I can be happy and whole.  It is usually during these weeks that I somehow find a new resource - a website, … Continue reading Start Here

Parenting after Abuse

I've been Netflixing the show Parenthood.  I started watching because I no longer have cable, there was nothing on the main stations, and I love Lauren Graham from Gilmore Girls.    Halfway through the 1st episode I was hooked.  If I'm not writing, taking care of my home/kids or doing yoga/therapy/meditation, I'm watching Parenthood.  For … Continue reading Parenting after Abuse

the Downside of “The Universe”

  Truth Bombs I love yoga, my yoga studio and my yoga peeps.  For a time I bought into the idea that "the universe" speaks to us.  It is an attractive idea, right?  In the same way religious people say their lives are controlled by God, many yoga peeps say our lives are controlled by … Continue reading the Downside of “The Universe”

Why I Stayed with My Covert Narcissist

Human Doormat Syndrome   I suffer from Human Doormat Syndrome (HDS).  I'm thinking of starting a recovery program for fellow sufferers.  Like AA, we could come together in a circle, take turns saying "Hi.  I'm MurphyCee and I am a Human Doormat".  Then we could share our stories of how we've willingly allowed others to … Continue reading Why I Stayed with My Covert Narcissist