Yesterday was my middle son's birthday. He was with his dad. He was there an unusually long time, and he came home very excited; again, unusual. He showed me a flash drive that his dad had given him. Apparently his dad had a video camera from the early years of our marriage, and he'd moved … Continue reading Is Seven Years Enough?
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Divorcing a Narcissist: The Aftermath
In the US we are currently witnessing a narcissistic, powerful, wealthy man lose his status. Many have wondered if his young wife will divorce him. My children were laughing about how well off she'd be if she did divorce him. Having divorced a narcissist, I'm very aware of the price we pay, and the actual … Continue reading Divorcing a Narcissist: The Aftermath
The Practice of Medicine
A few weeks ago I had a seizure. I was sitting in my kitchen with my 17 year old son, working on his college applications. The next thing I knew there were strange men trying to kidnap me (paramedics) and, when I was finally full aware, I was sitting in an ambulance on my way … Continue reading The Practice of Medicine
The Permanence Of Heartbreak
(background info- my brothers beach house is next door to my mothers, and there is constant competition about who is staying with her, and she gets pretty crazy when I stay with my brother, which I do most often because, well...she's sort of crazy) Five years later there are still times I can't breathe. … Continue reading The Permanence Of Heartbreak
The Weight Of Cancer
As a 5 year survivor of late stage Ovarian Cancer I am often approached by family members of people recently diagnosed with a deadly cancer. I've been searching for an image of how it feels to be diagnosed with a deadly disease, and the best I can come up with is a barbell. I was … Continue reading The Weight Of Cancer
Die with Compassion
I spent today with my Aunt, who is the Executrix of her brother's estate. She drove 2.5 hours to get to his attorney's office. We then went to the courthouse to get the papers required to access his accounts. From there we were off to his 1st bank, then the 2nd. At the 1st bank, … Continue reading Die with Compassion
Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables! During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate". Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you. All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
The Crowd Cried
Yes, this is what happened at my ex's wedding last night. According to my son. My son left as soon as the "wedding" was over, because he felt ridiculous watching all these people cry. I haven't got the courage to ask him who was crying, because so many of my ex family in law was … Continue reading The Crowd Cried
The Essence of Yoga
God bless her, my mother keeps asking me to teach her some "yoga poses". It makes sense. I taught her dance aerobics, step aerobics, zumba, weight lifting and roller blading. Each craze I've embraced, she's embraced, and I adore her for it. So why did I get so annoyed when she kept pushing me … Continue reading The Essence of Yoga
#MyKidIsAnA-Hole
Is there a hashtag for this? Personally, I don't understand instagram so I don't know. I just know that if I did understand instagram, I'd be creating this hashtag today. Today my boss lovingly informed me that my ex and his new girl are getting married December 23. She told me because she and her … Continue reading #MyKidIsAnA-Hole
Groomed but Escaped 