Who Must Bridge The Divide?

How do I put this into words......... While I am not proud of how I behaved, last weekend I finally lost it with my parents.  After spending the past year, hell  - my entire life - trying to keep them happy, do the "right" thing, meet their needs, I lost it.  I was accused of … Continue reading Who Must Bridge The Divide?

A Dress for My Ex’s Funeral

This is probably really bad for my karma but....... For Mother's day my eldest son and his GF took me to brunch at a restaurant in the city.   The restaurant didn't take reservations, so we wandered around while waiting for our table.  The section of the city is the current up and coming area, … Continue reading A Dress for My Ex’s Funeral

Love

passive aggressive relationships Last week I ran into the spouse of one of my BFF's.  They are currently separated, at her request.  The only impediment to their divorce is her inability to afford a lawyer. He wants them to get back together, and he took the opportunity to plead his case.  He has 3 reasons … Continue reading Love

13 Projects

Yes - obviously plagiarized, but I think with merit. I recently decided to part ways with my realtor.  I interviewed 3 new realtors, and 2 of the 3 told me I needed to undo one of my favorite features of my house: the wallpapered risers on the staircase. This will be my final project, because … Continue reading 13 Projects

The Narcissist Describes Love

This is a "love letter" written by a narcissist.  It's a great read. This week I had dinner with my old nanny.  She was part of our lives for the 1st 5 years of our marriage.  She told me she missed how great we were as a family, she loved how much fun we had … Continue reading The Narcissist Describes Love

The Mess Left By The Narcissist

How The Narcissist Steals Your Health, Your Sanity & Your Soul   Now that my divorce is final I get to sell my house.  I had thought last fall that we might be coming to an agreement, and my cousins and I did a lot of work to get the house ready for marketing.  When … Continue reading The Mess Left By The Narcissist

I’m Moving On!!!!

What a week!  In my wildest dreams I could not have envisioned the week I've had.   Three Huge Things Happened.  I'll explain them in reverse. The 3rd thing happened today.  Today I had another divorce hearing.  I assumed it would amount to nothing, especially when my attorney called me at 9AM to tell me … Continue reading I’m Moving On!!!!

Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts

After 2 1/2 years of this  divorce process you'd think I would be over the pain.   After all that has happened, during our marriage and during the divorce, I am still amazed when I feel like I've taken a dagger to my heart. I know my spouse is a psychopath.  I know he messed … Continue reading Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts

I Learned Tolerance From A Minority in A Gun Shop

A few bits of business before I start: I don't care who you voted for.  This is not an anti-Trump blog I am buying a gun.  I hope I don't have to use it, but I plan to be prepared. I, and my son,  are taking fire arm safety classes I am afraid of the … Continue reading I Learned Tolerance From A Minority in A Gun Shop

Let’s Talk FaceBook

A few background facts:  I own a restaurant with my soon to be ex (stbx).  My savings and good credit partially funded it, I helped open it, I did the books for years, and I showed up when it was understaffed and waited tables. My stbx cheated on me repeatedly during out marriage. He was … Continue reading Let’s Talk FaceBook