Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0

  I wrote Sex & the Covert Narc four years ago, and it continues to be my most often read entry.  I decided it was time to update my thoughts in regards to sex. If you read my 1st blog you know that sex was one of the triggers my ex used.  When I was … Continue reading Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0

The Permanence Of Heartbreak

(background info- my brothers beach house is next door to my mothers, and there is constant competition about who is staying with her, and she gets pretty crazy when I stay with my brother, which I do most often because, well...she's sort of crazy)   Five years later there are still times I  can't breathe.  … Continue reading The Permanence Of Heartbreak

Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel

  If you are connected to a narcissist, you probably wrestle with your shadow self.  Some aspects of our shadow self are survival instincts no longer necessary to survive.  The most toxic parts of our shadow self though come from parents.  If you were raised by a narcissist or other disordered person, you have been  … Continue reading Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel

Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter

My brother and his wife adopted a 2 year old girl from Russia 16 years ago. She has been both a joy and a nightmare, often within a single day.  Currently she is leaning towards nightmare, and my brother and his wife spend every day afraid for her.  I spent time with them all yesterday and … Continue reading Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

I have struggled with my bosses.  According to my therapist, I am expecting people who have consistently demonstrated that they don't have my back, to have my back.  An old pattern of mine,  and the definition of crazy! This weekend was my Ovarian Cancer walk.  The walk is held by a foundation I support all … Continue reading Actions Speak Louder Than Words