I am on the last of 4 teenage boys. I learned early on that boys require a special sort of patience, because they bring with them a level of hostility unrivaled by the angriest of all creatures. This morning was a perfect example. As I was dropping my 18 year old off at school … Continue reading Snarling Teenage Boys
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Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0
I wrote Sex & the Covert Narc four years ago, and it continues to be my most often read entry. I decided it was time to update my thoughts in regards to sex. If you read my 1st blog you know that sex was one of the triggers my ex used. When I was … Continue reading Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0
The Permanence Of Heartbreak
(background info- my brothers beach house is next door to my mothers, and there is constant competition about who is staying with her, and she gets pretty crazy when I stay with my brother, which I do most often because, well...she's sort of crazy) Five years later there are still times I can't breathe. … Continue reading The Permanence Of Heartbreak
Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel
If you are connected to a narcissist, you probably wrestle with your shadow self. Some aspects of our shadow self are survival instincts no longer necessary to survive. The most toxic parts of our shadow self though come from parents. If you were raised by a narcissist or other disordered person, you have been … Continue reading Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel
Cats, Dogs & Sexism
I have a cat and a dog, both of whom I love. My dog has been plastered by my side through chemo, divorce, moving: every moment of the 10 years she's been with me. When I've been too sick to walk her she runs outside, does her business and gets right back in bed … Continue reading Cats, Dogs & Sexism
Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter
My brother and his wife adopted a 2 year old girl from Russia 16 years ago. She has been both a joy and a nightmare, often within a single day. Currently she is leaning towards nightmare, and my brother and his wife spend every day afraid for her. I spent time with them all yesterday and … Continue reading Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
I have struggled with my bosses. According to my therapist, I am expecting people who have consistently demonstrated that they don't have my back, to have my back. An old pattern of mine, and the definition of crazy! This weekend was my Ovarian Cancer walk. The walk is held by a foundation I support all … Continue reading Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Cheating Narcissist
Funny story...... My ex recently changed his job. He told our son that he was doing it because he wouldn't have to work weekends, and would have every other Friday off. Lo and behold, he's now working every Friday & every weekend. My son told me this when I asked how he gets to work … Continue reading Cheating Narcissist
Life After the Narcissist
I dreamed of a family and wall to wall carpeting as a child. Wall to wall carpeting was relatively new, and many of my friends had it. We had oriental rugs and hard wood, and our house was cold. My friends had families that loved each other. They looked forward to seeing each other, they … Continue reading Life After the Narcissist
A Letter To My Son(s)
I had dinner with 2 of my sons tonight. One is turning 25 in a few weeks, and he told me his plan. He wants to rent a party bus which will take a bunch of people around the city for a safe night of partying. He mentioned it because he wanted to know - … Continue reading A Letter To My Son(s)
Groomed but Escaped 