At therapy this week my therapist said "we have to get rid of that inner critic, always putting you down" and the 1st thought that popped into my head was "I know. I'm so stupid for doing that". What a predicament! How can I get rid of the voice that constantly criticizes me, when I'm … Continue reading My Stupid Inner Critic
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The Wrong Choice: My Specialty
My youngest graduated 8th grade today. I had the perfect seat in the packed auditorium. It gave me ample opportunity to watch him and get great pics as he received his diploma. Until.......1/2 way through, they switched the direction the kids were walking. I got an awesome pic of his back. I came home to … Continue reading The Wrong Choice: My Specialty
The Lie Sundae: The Narc’s Weapon
The Worse thing about being lied to is knowing you weren't worth the truth. I recently read these words, by an author I don't know, and I've been thinking about them. I imagine in a healthy relationship this might be true. I've not been in a healthy relationship, so I don't know. Do healthy couples … Continue reading The Lie Sundae: The Narc’s Weapon
Up In Flames
Do you think that the paper dry cleaners use when they preserve your wedding dress is meant to serve as lighter fluid? Because it does! I've been back and forth about what to do with that stupid dress. I threw away the box a while ago, and the dress, in it's plastic laundry bag, has … Continue reading Up In Flames
Alone in a Room Full Of People
That's how I feel. It makes no difference how many people are there, I'm different. It doesn't matter how much I write about it, how freely I talk about it, how many people ask me how I am or say they're there for me. I'm alone in a room full of people. I can't talk … Continue reading Alone in a Room Full Of People
Forgiveness: Not For The Narcissist
I'm feeling a bit angry right now. If you don't follow my blog, here's the key points to know: 1) I spent 25 years with, and am now divorcing, a covert narcissist 2) Yoga has become one of my coping techniques 3) I live in a small community, and me & the ex-narc have … Continue reading Forgiveness: Not For The Narcissist
Mt. Everest
I've been writing about my recovery (much more than what I've posted) and it dawned on me that this Trek we are on, recovering from narcissistic abuse, might be similar to submitting Mt. Everest. Once the idea occurred to me I started reading up on Everest and I am stunned by much of what I … Continue reading Mt. Everest
Healing a Bankrupted Soul
I've read so many articles stating that if you are divorcing a narcissist, just cut your losses and walk away. Every single author says the same thing: you are fighting a losing battle, you will never win, and you will walk away financially bankrupt if you try to fight him. I agree with all of … Continue reading Healing a Bankrupted Soul
The Insidious Take Down
https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/36952273/posts/1016561972 I happens so gradually, you don't understand what is happening. While it seems to others like he is bragging about your latest accomplishment, you somehow understand what he is really saying: shut it down. This is way too much about you. So there is the stress of being on eggshells on all times, … Continue reading The Insidious Take Down
Groomed but Escaped 