Divorcing A Narcissist I have just come to a divorce settlement with my covert narc (CN). It took almost 3 years, and it was hell. As I get over the constant fear I realize how bad it really was. The most important thing I've learned is this: This was not my fault. I was … Continue reading It Is Not Your Fault
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I’m Moving On!!!!
What a week! In my wildest dreams I could not have envisioned the week I've had. Three Huge Things Happened. I'll explain them in reverse. The 3rd thing happened today. Today I had another divorce hearing. I assumed it would amount to nothing, especially when my attorney called me at 9AM to tell me … Continue reading I’m Moving On!!!!
What If?
I know....don't get your hopes up. Tomorrow is a hearing in front of a "Master" regarding distribution of property. This is how a contentious divorce works in PA. If the parties are not amenable to binding arbitration, the process is broken into 3 parts: support, custody and equitable distribution. On the surface this seems … Continue reading What If?
Cancer Saved My Life
I received the transcript from my spouse's deposition today, and I started reading it. I was floored on the 1st page, when he spoke about how our divorce came about. I remember the moment as if it happened yesterday. It is forever seared into my brain. It was 9:20AM. I was in the kitchen preparing … Continue reading Cancer Saved My Life
Things I Want in 2017
It seems unlikely that I'll get divorced in 2017, so I've been thinking about things I want that I might actually get. Here they are. a yoga top that holds me in without humiliating me while putting it on my own personal signal that beams from the roof of my car so I can find … Continue reading Things I Want in 2017
How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
Here I sit, on the precipice of a new year, and all I can think is What The Fuck?? How did I get here? How did I become the one people whisper about in the grocery store. “Oh, you remember her, she’s about to lose her house, and I know...it makes no sense. How did … Continue reading How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
During this 3rd year of my separation I've become increasingly reclusive, and I haven't been sure why. The other night I figured it out. I was talking to a friend who had just scarfed down 2 bagels and pound of M & M's and was in a shame spiral. I'm the ideal person to call … Continue reading The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
The Gift of Me
Tonight, after a particularly contentious legal day, I sit writing. I am surrounded by the candles and Christmas decorations I've accumulated through the years, and wondering what they mean. This is my 3rd Christmas separated, and it is the hardest, and I've been pondering this. I'm sitting at my dining room table with the … Continue reading The Gift of Me
The Covert Narcissist & Lies
Wow. Just......wow. 10 days ago my narc was caught lying. He lied about his income and his affairs. He stormed out of a deposition because he was confronted with evidence about his affairs. He admitted to hiding income, lying about selling our business, and withholding pertinent information. Lies on top of lies. Since he … Continue reading The Covert Narcissist & Lies
My Son is a Prop
My spouse insists on having my son every Sunday & Monday. Unless my son doesn't want to do what the dad wants to do - then he "can't" take him. Two weeks ago the dad made arrangements for my son's basketball coach to pick him up, take him to his game, then drop him … Continue reading My Son is a Prop
Groomed but Escaped 