Damn! I just read what I wrote the other day about the counter-offer my covert narc spouse made me. When I wrote that post I was clear that this offer was a manipulation and game playing on his part. But somewhere during the past day or two, I've become distracted. Perhaps it was my lawyer … Continue reading Stockholm Syndrome: The Narc’s Legacy
Divorce
The Narc Never Gives Up
If you've been following me you know I'm trying to divorce a covert narcissist, with whom I own a restaurant. We had a hearing with a Master and the Masters recommendation, while totally screwing me over, was enough for me to attempt another negotiation. So I sent an offer, in line with what the Master … Continue reading The Narc Never Gives Up
Grrrrrrr
I can't even believe I'm writing this..... I've been on disability since 2010. This will never change. I have an unidentified glitch in my immune system and, combined with my allergies, asthma , and COPD, I suffer repeated bouts of lung/sinus infections. In case you need a visual of how this results in disability, my … Continue reading Grrrrrrr
Time
Never have I been more confused about my feeling of time than the past 3 years. Did that happen yesterday or last year? Did I say that today or last week? It's as if the time chip in my brain is on the fritz. I keep searching for it, going round and round in my … Continue reading Time
Are we People or Puppets?
I just heard Robin Roberts (GMA) say this regarding last nights debate, and it's effect on voters: "Later we'll hear from the people who might decide this election. Um...will decide this election" I'm not usually one to buy into conspiracy theories, but I have to say, this got me wondering. Did she mistakenly let … Continue reading Are we People or Puppets?
Mutually Assured Destruction
This phrase is often used in war movies and political dramas, and is a political strategy adhered to by most countries. It means that if either side continues, both sides are assured devastating consequences. The idea is meant to prevent further aggression. Who knew I would agree to a path that will lead to mutually … Continue reading Mutually Assured Destruction
Divorce Attorneys: The Truth
I am cursed with the belief that when dealing with an adult, I'm being told the truth. I would think that by now I'd be over that, having been repeatedly lied to by my spouse, but no, I still take adults' words at face value. Given this, I believed my attorney when he expressed outrage … Continue reading Divorce Attorneys: The Truth
What Was I Thinking?
When my spouse 1st left me and gave me his proposal for support and division of property, I was horrified. It was so clear that his intent was to walk away and wash his hands of responsibility for me and his children. It was such a horrible offer, I didn't even consider it. How stupid … Continue reading What Was I Thinking?
Are We Our Stuff?
I've spent the last 2 years selling, giving away and trashing most of my "stuff", and it feels great! I love how empty my house looks, I love the freedom I have now that I don't have to take care of so many things, and I love feeling unencumbered. I am still very tied down, … Continue reading Are We Our Stuff?
Let’s Talk FaceBook
A few background facts: I own a restaurant with my soon to be ex (stbx). My savings and good credit partially funded it, I helped open it, I did the books for years, and I showed up when it was understaffed and waited tables. My stbx cheated on me repeatedly during out marriage. He was … Continue reading Let’s Talk FaceBook
Groomed but Escaped 