I am painting my townhouse, and the act of painting has plunged me back in time, forcing me to recall how my ex-narcissist began his campaign of diminishment. It began with our home renovations. I planned all the renovations. I came up with creative design ideas to maximize space, I chose all colors, light fixtures … Continue reading The Art of Diminishment
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Anxiety
I've been experiencing increasing anxiety lately and today I sat down and gave some serious thought to why. I realize it is all tied to my taxes........sort of. Tomorrow I have to go to my ex's/our accountants office, , to ask for the signed K-1 and Cost Basis forms for my taxes. The accountant has … Continue reading Anxiety
Balance & the Narcissist
Balance has been on my mind lately, primarily because my lack of it keeps launching me down stairs. After 6 weeks laid up with a broken foot, I'm determined to regain my balance. My physical therapist assures me that despite the neuropathy in my feet I can, and will, regain balance. I almost didn't go … Continue reading Balance & the Narcissist
Blog to Come…..
Every once in a while I write the 1st draft of a blog, and it goes missing. Such is the case with today's blog. I am currently in the throes of trying to complete my taxes, part of which are dependent on assistance from my passive aggressive ex narcissist. An hour ago I saved a … Continue reading Blog to Come…..
Oprah & the Covert Narcissist
What is the Truth? I've been trying for 3 days to write a blog about Oprah's Golden Globe speech without referencing my ex narc. Alas, it is not meant to be. I am compelled to write about the intersection of my ex narc and Oprah. Quick background - my ex left his 1st wife … Continue reading Oprah & the Covert Narcissist
Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables! During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate". Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you. All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Parenting with a Narcissist. Hahahaha!
Yes, I'm laughing. Every once in a while I forget who I'm "parenting" with. In those moments, I waste my time sending him emails regarding the issues I'm dealing with. Most of the time I'm aware, as I'm writing, that he will not assist. Sometimes though, I slip and think maybe.....maybe this time he'll help … Continue reading Parenting with a Narcissist. Hahahaha!
Actions Speak Louder than Words
My oldest son is 25. I mention this because he is now the age that represents the amount of time I was with his father. He spent copious amounts of time as a child with his dad, traveling around playing baseball. For him this meant time with his dad, which has influenced his thought process. … Continue reading Actions Speak Louder than Words
Who Must Bridge The Divide?
How do I put this into words......... While I am not proud of how I behaved, last weekend I finally lost it with my parents. After spending the past year, hell - my entire life - trying to keep them happy, do the "right" thing, meet their needs, I lost it. I was accused of … Continue reading Who Must Bridge The Divide?
It’s About Community
Isolation = the narcissists greatest weapon The narcissist slowly separates you from all the people you once knew. Zooming in on your natural ambivalence towards your family and friends, the narcissist highlights the negatives of all around you; becomes your "protector" against them. If that isn't enough, he stands between you and who ever … Continue reading It’s About Community
Groomed but Escaped 