I don't often answer my phone. When it rings, I look at it. If it's a caller I don't know, I hit silence and go about my business. If it is someone I do know I make a conscious choice to talk or ignore them. At times during my divorce proceedings, my lawyer was among … Continue reading Sweaty McSweaterson
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The Tractor
Him He pulled up to the house in his Cadillac. He parked it on the street and checked the carport to make sure she wasn’t home. He caressed the car as he left it, filled with pride that it was his, reveling in the fact that while she would have fought against its purchase, she … Continue reading The Tractor
The Final Years of an Aging Narcissist
I hope I don't burn in hell for writing this...... I had an uncle who lived about 1.5 hours away from me. He was a flamboyant narcissist. He and his wife would come to my town every month or so, sit at my kitchen table and rattle on, telling me the same stories of their … Continue reading The Final Years of an Aging Narcissist
The Power of Negativity
A lovely woman from my ovarian cancer group died last week. To be clear, she did not pass, depart or gain her teal wings - she Died. Yesterday was the service, and a group of us drove up together. It was short and simple. There was no viewing, no hymns, no priest or minister, and … Continue reading The Power of Negativity
Life After the Narcissist
I dreamed of a family and wall to wall carpeting as a child. Wall to wall carpeting was relatively new, and many of my friends had it. We had oriental rugs and hard wood, and our house was cold. My friends had families that loved each other. They looked forward to seeing each other, they … Continue reading Life After the Narcissist
How Narcissists’ Damage Children
My boss, the one who recently lost her son, was upset yesterday. She told me she didn't know how she was going to handle the upcoming weekend. Her son is a senior in college, and this weekend is Senior Night at the football game. She wasn't too concerned initially, because in high school parents escorted … Continue reading How Narcissists’ Damage Children
Let’s Talk About Your Pelvis
I am an ovarian cancer survivor. I am late stage, which the majority of us are. I wake up every day and remember, in an instant, that I am living with a 85% recurrence rate, that my cancer is viewed as a "chronic" condition, that it is only a matter or time... And I'm mad. … Continue reading Let’s Talk About Your Pelvis
A Letter To My Son(s)
I had dinner with 2 of my sons tonight. One is turning 25 in a few weeks, and he told me his plan. He wants to rent a party bus which will take a bunch of people around the city for a safe night of partying. He mentioned it because he wanted to know - … Continue reading A Letter To My Son(s)
Who Must Bridge The Divide?
How do I put this into words......... While I am not proud of how I behaved, last weekend I finally lost it with my parents. After spending the past year, hell - my entire life - trying to keep them happy, do the "right" thing, meet their needs, I lost it. I was accused of … Continue reading Who Must Bridge The Divide?
It’s About Community
Isolation = the narcissists greatest weapon The narcissist slowly separates you from all the people you once knew. Zooming in on your natural ambivalence towards your family and friends, the narcissist highlights the negatives of all around you; becomes your "protector" against them. If that isn't enough, he stands between you and who ever … Continue reading It’s About Community
Groomed but Escaped 