I wasn't there, but if the way my attorney describes it is accurate, we made a narcissist sweat his balls off today!! &, while it is probably bad Karma to gloat about this, after everything he's put me through over the past 25 years I sort of feel like I'm entitled to a bit … Continue reading The Joy of A Deposition
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Adultary & Bed Bugs
If you are in a relationship with an adulterer, there is the chance you will have to deal with bed bugs at some point. I had the joy of this while going through chemotherapy. When I first started seeing streaks of blood on my sheets I assumed it was because of my surgery. By the … Continue reading Adultary & Bed Bugs
Why Cheaters Cheat
I've been looking for a new therapist (insurance change) and I stumbled upon one who seemed ideal. She takes my insurance, she deals with relationships and divorce, etc. She also had a youtube video, which I decided to watch before I called her office. The video is taken while she's speaking to an auditorium of … Continue reading Why Cheaters Cheat
The Narc Never Gives Up
If you've been following me you know I'm trying to divorce a covert narcissist, with whom I own a restaurant. We had a hearing with a Master and the Masters recommendation, while totally screwing me over, was enough for me to attempt another negotiation. So I sent an offer, in line with what the Master … Continue reading The Narc Never Gives Up
Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
The Circus versus the Magician I just spent time with my uncle, a bon-a-fide covert narcissist of the somatic sub-type (obsessed with his looks & physical prowess). I had planned to work on implementing boundaries, but it took little time to realize I was fighting a losing battle. At the end of my time … Continue reading Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
Let’s Talk FaceBook
A few background facts: I own a restaurant with my soon to be ex (stbx). My savings and good credit partially funded it, I helped open it, I did the books for years, and I showed up when it was understaffed and waited tables. My stbx cheated on me repeatedly during out marriage. He was … Continue reading Let’s Talk FaceBook
Delusion, Meet Reality
I am surrounded by well meaning family & friends, all of whom want the best for me. I am also part of a yoga community, which wants the best for everyone, and I belong to cancer and divorce support groups on FB. All of these sources together have thrust me into a world of delusion, … Continue reading Delusion, Meet Reality
The Wrong Choice: My Specialty
My youngest graduated 8th grade today. I had the perfect seat in the packed auditorium. It gave me ample opportunity to watch him and get great pics as he received his diploma. Until.......1/2 way through, they switched the direction the kids were walking. I got an awesome pic of his back. I came home to … Continue reading The Wrong Choice: My Specialty
Oopps I Did It Again
I Was Narced Again! My children learned from their dad how to talk me down, get their way, mess with my head. I call it "narcing". (Actually, I call it their dad's name + ing but here I'll call it narcing) My two boys who have been with me full time the past 2 years … Continue reading Oopps I Did It Again
My AHA! Moment
If happened this morning! All of the writing, reading, talking, meditating, ruminating, examining and yoga all came together this morning and I GOT IT! It has taken a long time to get here, and I know I am still a work in progress, but I finally feel like it's a journey worth taking. I want … Continue reading My AHA! Moment
Groomed but Escaped 