Mother!

If you'd like to watch how life with a narcissists goes, watch the movie Mother!  It is difficult to watch because it is so crazy, but it a great representation of how, and why, someone can be trapped by a narcissist. Happy Labor Day weekend!

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Sweaty McSweaterson

I don't often answer my phone.  When it rings, I look at it.  If it's a caller I don't know, I hit silence and go about my business.  If it is someone I do know I make a conscious choice to talk or ignore them. At times during my divorce proceedings, my lawyer was among … Continue reading Sweaty McSweaterson

The Art of Diminishment

I am painting my townhouse, and the act of painting has plunged me back in time, forcing me to recall how my ex-narcissist began his campaign of diminishment.  It began with our home renovations. I planned all the renovations.   I came up with creative  design ideas to maximize space, I chose all colors, light fixtures … Continue reading The Art of Diminishment

Anxiety & Narcissistic Abuse

Anxiety has followed me all of my life.  In recent years I've managed to temper it's impact.  In new situations, like my recent travel to Sri Lanka, I can leave anxiety at home. Oddly, it still haunts me in some ordinary, day to day circumstances.  I assume the association between many normal life events and … Continue reading Anxiety & Narcissistic Abuse

How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person

I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years.  Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band.  In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job.  A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person

Narcissists Love Play-Doh

Recovering from Narcissist abuse is a long term endeavor.  I have developed a step program (will share later) and I still revisit some of the earlier steps.  I often have to reassure myself that I am not imaging my abuse.   I've been pondering lately why this is.  What is it about the narcissist abuse … Continue reading Narcissists Love Play-Doh

Another Win for the Narcissist

My ex and I reached a settlement on 1/25 of this year.  As of 2/1 he was supposed to increase the amount of support he's paying.  A substantial increase.  In return, I'm to pay the mortgage while selling the house.  All of which is what I wanted, and all of which is manageable. Except...... His … Continue reading Another Win for the Narcissist

Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts

After 2 1/2 years of this  divorce process you'd think I would be over the pain.   After all that has happened, during our marriage and during the divorce, I am still amazed when I feel like I've taken a dagger to my heart. I know my spouse is a psychopath.  I know he messed … Continue reading Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts