Bear with me - I am going to think this out as I write it. The narcissist thinks only of himself. If you are reading this you can't really grasp this. You are so busy thinking of everyone around you it makes no sense that the narc could care less. The only way I've come … Continue reading Maneuvering Around the Narcissist
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Another Win for the Narcissist
My ex and I reached a settlement on 1/25 of this year. As of 2/1 he was supposed to increase the amount of support he's paying. A substantial increase. In return, I'm to pay the mortgage while selling the house. All of which is what I wanted, and all of which is manageable. Except...... His … Continue reading Another Win for the Narcissist
Narcissists Feed On Shame
Shame is a new concept for me. I lived it, but I never understood it. From as early as I can remember I've felt a deep sense of shame, a belief that I was inherently such a bad human I deserved nothing. As a child I was called "practically perfect". My family thought this was … Continue reading Narcissists Feed On Shame
The Narcissist Describes Love
This is a "love letter" written by a narcissist. It's a great read. This week I had dinner with my old nanny. She was part of our lives for the 1st 5 years of our marriage. She told me she missed how great we were as a family, she loved how much fun we had … Continue reading The Narcissist Describes Love
Boundaries Enrich Life
If you are mired in the clutches of a narcissist you probably have no idea what boundaries are, let alone how to use them. I am a newbie to boundaries so my information is limited, but I am an expert on a lack of boundaries and the end result. Boundaries, if you don't know, are … Continue reading Boundaries Enrich Life
Thankyou, May I Have Another?
When I was young thin mint girl scout cookies were a big deal. During the cookie season, one night each week our dessert would be thin mints. On the thin mint nights here is what happened. Dad, sitting at the head of the table, would open a sleeve of cookies. He would give himself 3 … Continue reading Thankyou, May I Have Another?
How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
(As always, substitute her if you are a guy) I thought it might be fun for some of us regulars to share how our ex introduced his adulterer to our kids. I'll go first. I'll tell it from my point of view and his point of view (his in red. Like Scarlet Letter Red) ME: … Continue reading How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
Divorce and Your Mortgage
This is a serious rant, so if you aren't in the mood to listen to me bitch about what to many is trivial bullshit, Stop Reading. I also curse. My ex stopped paying the mortgage on our jointly owned house in October. He is living with his GF, and I am in our house with … Continue reading Divorce and Your Mortgage
The Mess Left By The Narcissist
How The Narcissist Steals Your Health, Your Sanity & Your Soul Now that my divorce is final I get to sell my house. I had thought last fall that we might be coming to an agreement, and my cousins and I did a lot of work to get the house ready for marketing. When … Continue reading The Mess Left By The Narcissist
Ode to a Cheater
My favorite blogger is ChumpLady. She has turned calling bullshit on cheaters into an art form. Naturally, when she put out the call for Valentine Poems to our cheaters, I had to comply. I had so much fun writing this I thought I'd share. Enjoy! Your face was so sad when you first came … Continue reading Ode to a Cheater
Groomed but Escaped 