Balance & the Narcissist

Balance has been on my mind lately, primarily because my lack of it keeps launching me down stairs.  After 6 weeks laid up with a broken foot, I'm determined to regain my balance.  My physical therapist assures me that despite the neuropathy in my feet I can, and will, regain balance. I almost didn't go … Continue reading Balance & the Narcissist

Blog to Come…..

Every once in a while I write the 1st draft of a blog, and it goes missing.  Such is the case with today's blog. I am currently in the throes of trying to complete my taxes, part of which are dependent on assistance from my passive aggressive ex narcissist.  An hour ago I saved a … Continue reading Blog to Come…..

The Power of Negativity

A lovely woman from my ovarian cancer group died last week.  To be clear, she did not pass, depart or gain her teal wings - she Died. Yesterday was the service, and a group of us drove up together.  It was short and simple.  There was no viewing, no hymns, no priest or minister, and … Continue reading The Power of Negativity

Anxiety & Narcissistic Abuse

Anxiety has followed me all of my life.  In recent years I've managed to temper it's impact.  In new situations, like my recent travel to Sri Lanka, I can leave anxiety at home. Oddly, it still haunts me in some ordinary, day to day circumstances.  I assume the association between many normal life events and … Continue reading Anxiety & Narcissistic Abuse

Disability, Prejudice & the Narcissist

I am prejudiced. 100% prejudiced.  I am prejudiced against people with disabilities.  Which makes it mighty tough to be a person with disabilities! I was raised to believe that you must be doing something constructive each waking hour.  Work/school were not to be missed, even if you were deathly ill.  "Leisure time" was used to … Continue reading Disability, Prejudice & the Narcissist

Breaking up With A Narcissist

Not Your Normal BreakUp Most people assume they understand the depths of any issue you have, and can't wait to  tell you how to fix it.  For example, I have insomnia.  There are a number of reasons for it, but chief among them is an adrenaline based inhaler I use in the morning and at … Continue reading Breaking up With A Narcissist

Loneliness and the Narcissist

The issue of loneliness has been on my mind because I've been cooped up with a broken foot.  This past weekend my son was with his dad and, with the exception of my neighbor walking my dog and a friend bringing me groceries, I spent the entire weekend alone.  In all the time I was … Continue reading Loneliness and the Narcissist

Rewriting My Script

Odd that it is watching, and enjoying,  the SuperBowl that has brought me clarity around the concept of the roles we are assigned, and accept.  In my family of origin I was given the role of quiet, perfect Murphy, not the brightest, but certainly the sweetest of the bunch.  Through that lens I came to … Continue reading Rewriting My Script

Acting, Lies & the Narcissist

My youngest son drove me to a Dr's appointment tonight.    It's often illuminating spending time with captive children, and tonight did not disappoint. My son has recently started working as a cashier in the market down the street from our home.  While waiting for my prescription, he launched into a tirade about how much … Continue reading Acting, Lies & the Narcissist

Mt Everest & Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse

I think that climbing Mt. Everest is comparable to recovering from narcissistic abuse.  For example: Mt Everest - requires Sherpas    Narcissistic abuse recovery  (NAR)requires therapists, body workers, spiritual leaders & more Mt Everest requires attention to your body, before, during and after.   NAR requires attention to your body before, during and after. Mt Everest … Continue reading Mt Everest & Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse