Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people. I thought I had it down with my ex, but I did not. I wasn't going gray, I was simply avoiding him. Since we live in the same community, and share numerous friends and associates, avoiding him is … Continue reading Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People
Author: MurphyCee
Steer Into the Skid
You will know this is a true story because who would/could make this up. My day today - My drivers license expires in 3 days, so I set this morning aside to renew it. I drove 20 miles further than the DMV close to me, because there is never a line. I walked in … Continue reading Steer Into the Skid
How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years. Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band. In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job. A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us
When I went to settlement, unloading the "home" I'd owned with my ex- narcissist, I found out that I was being held solely responsible for all outstanding fees, interest, and penalties on our mortgage. Having been put through the wringer by Bank of America I was pissed off. I wrote my lawyer explaining everything BoA … Continue reading Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us
Feelings – Go Away Please!
If you read my blog you know that my bosses son died 2 weeks ago. It was a tragic loss, yet my boss and her family handled it beautifully. She and her husband gave their son's Eulogy, and it was touching, poignant, funny and inspiring. And it triggered the shit out of me. (does this … Continue reading Feelings – Go Away Please!
Let’s Talk About Your Pelvis
I am an ovarian cancer survivor. I am late stage, which the majority of us are. I wake up every day and remember, in an instant, that I am living with a 85% recurrence rate, that my cancer is viewed as a "chronic" condition, that it is only a matter or time... And I'm mad. … Continue reading Let’s Talk About Your Pelvis
Unconditional Love
This will be short because I am exhausted and not feeling well, but feeling compelled to write. Yesterday was the funeral for my bosses son. It was beautiful. She and her spouse gave the Eulogy, and there are no words to describe it. They were funny, poignant, joyous and sad. They spoke primarily to their … Continue reading Unconditional Love
Anger, Grief & Death
My bosses 19 year old son died at 4:33 today. He suffered severe cerebral palsy from birth, and his past 3 years had been particularly cruel. He had 4 major surgeries, each resulting in major complications. Yesterday he suffered cardiac arrest. Today they made the decision to remove the ventilator keeping him alive, and he … Continue reading Anger, Grief & Death
A Letter To My Son(s)
I had dinner with 2 of my sons tonight. One is turning 25 in a few weeks, and he told me his plan. He wants to rent a party bus which will take a bunch of people around the city for a safe night of partying. He mentioned it because he wanted to know - … Continue reading A Letter To My Son(s)
Who Must Bridge The Divide?
How do I put this into words......... While I am not proud of how I behaved, last weekend I finally lost it with my parents. After spending the past year, hell - my entire life - trying to keep them happy, do the "right" thing, meet their needs, I lost it. I was accused of … Continue reading Who Must Bridge The Divide?
Groomed but Escaped 