My Tender Self

Admit to what you feel greedy about.  It will point to your most tender desire. This is one of Danielle LaPorte's "Truth Bomb"s.  If  you aren't familiar, Truth Bombs are a box of cards with insightful and/or thought provoking statements, designed to "break open your heart and soothe your soul".  There is a box of … Continue reading My Tender Self

The Wrong Choice: My Specialty

My youngest graduated 8th grade today.  I had the perfect seat in the packed auditorium.  It gave me ample opportunity to watch him and get great pics as he received his diploma.  Until.......1/2 way through, they switched the direction the kids were walking.  I got an awesome pic of his back.  I came home to … Continue reading The Wrong Choice: My Specialty

What’s Left of Me?

It's ironic that I have a Master's degree in Psychology but had no real idea what the buzzwords actually meant.  Words like emotional abuse, projection, dissociation, and denial, all so relevant to the therapeutic process, were only concepts; ideas I could define but not really relate to.  It's a good thing I decided not to … Continue reading What’s Left of Me?

Share Your Fondest Childhood Memory

Brene Brown is one of my favorite authors, and I've devoured each of her books.   As much as I love her writing, her Ted Talks and her website, I've not been able to do much with her information.  The only step I've taken is this blog, in which I'm trying to re-claim my authentic … Continue reading Share Your Fondest Childhood Memory

The Lie Sundae: The Narc’s Weapon

The Worse thing about being lied to is knowing you weren't worth the truth. I recently read these words, by an author I don't know, and I've been thinking about them.  I imagine in  a healthy relationship this might be true.  I've not been in a healthy relationship, so I don't know.  Do healthy couples … Continue reading The Lie Sundae: The Narc’s Weapon

The Covert Narc’s Son

I kicked out my middle son today.  Actually, I gave him several months to work things out, to start helping himself and to stop treating me like shit.  When nothing changed, I gave him a month's notice to go.  I should be wracked with guilt, but I'm not.  I'm relieved.  I know it's possible I'll … Continue reading The Covert Narc’s Son

Scapegoats

  a person or group made to bear the blame for others or to suffer in their place. 'Thrown to the Wolves" Boundaries.  Scapegoats.  Abuse. How do I put these words together in a way that rings true to me?    How do I get past the idea that I'm "bashing" family, "attacking people who did … Continue reading Scapegoats

Meet & Greet! Pizza Party

Welcome to the party! Excuse the mess, this weekend snuck up on me! So have a seat and make yourself cozy. This weekend we’re having a pizza party, so let me know what your favorite kind of p… Source: Meet & Greet! Pizza Party

I Have A Feeling Hangover

I have a feeling hangover! Two years ago, when I started with my therapist, she said (and I repeatedly read) "you have to feel your feelings to get past them.   You have to walk through them and FEEL them". I said WTF does that mean?  I feel my feelings.  I get sad, I cry, … Continue reading I Have A Feeling Hangover

Flashbacks

I've been mired in a flashback because of issues in my home.  I stumbled cross the guru of flashbacks, Pete Walker.  His site is pete-walker.com and I highly recommend it.  As a relative newby to all of this, I needed a source that really breaks down what a flashback is, why it occurs, how it … Continue reading Flashbacks