I need some lightening up so..... A while back I wrote a blog about toilet seats & narcissists. My narc never put the seat down. When I complained he said "I think you should have to put it up for me". When I pointed out that he wasn't likely to fall in he responded........with … Continue reading Toilet Seats
Wake Up Gurl!
13 Projects
Yes - obviously plagiarized, but I think with merit. I recently decided to part ways with my realtor. I interviewed 3 new realtors, and 2 of the 3 told me I needed to undo one of my favorite features of my house: the wallpapered risers on the staircase. This will be my final project, because … Continue reading 13 Projects
Panic
I made it through Easter with a smile and grace on the outside. On the inside, I can barely breathe. While I've said this to no one, I honestly don't know how much more I can handle. I feel like I dug a huge pit in the sand and voluntarily jumped in. I then … Continue reading Panic
Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Recovering from Narcissist abuse is a long term endeavor. I have developed a step program (will share later) and I still revisit some of the earlier steps. I often have to reassure myself that I am not imaging my abuse. I've been pondering lately why this is. What is it about the narcissist abuse … Continue reading Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Good Luck, Other Woman
Sometimes I write and write and feel like I've never really gotten to the heart of the matter. This blog is like that. I feel the message I'm trying to deliver, but my words feel inadequate, shallow, frivolous. I'll keep going, but I know that on some level I am blocking the root issue. Maybe … Continue reading Good Luck, Other Woman
Passive Aggressive Bullshit
Yes, this is a rant. I am so damned tired of passive aggressive bullshit I want to ...... I don't know what I want to do. I want to run away. I want to not wake up in the morning. I want to never read email, or take care of my home or my … Continue reading Passive Aggressive Bullshit
Really??
Things I want to say today It's been a shit day. After a shit night. After another shit day. Here are some apologies, requests, and questions for the world. Mailwoman: I am sorry you can't get to my mailbox. My bad - not yours! I pray you don't stress about the fact that you couldn't … Continue reading Really??
Maneuvering Around the Narcissist
Bear with me - I am going to think this out as I write it. The narcissist thinks only of himself. If you are reading this you can't really grasp this. You are so busy thinking of everyone around you it makes no sense that the narc could care less. The only way I've come … Continue reading Maneuvering Around the Narcissist
Another Win for the Narcissist
My ex and I reached a settlement on 1/25 of this year. As of 2/1 he was supposed to increase the amount of support he's paying. A substantial increase. In return, I'm to pay the mortgage while selling the house. All of which is what I wanted, and all of which is manageable. Except...... His … Continue reading Another Win for the Narcissist
Narcissists Feed On Shame
Shame is a new concept for me. I lived it, but I never understood it. From as early as I can remember I've felt a deep sense of shame, a belief that I was inherently such a bad human I deserved nothing. As a child I was called "practically perfect". My family thought this was … Continue reading Narcissists Feed On Shame
Groomed but Escaped 