The Narcissistic Father

  I thought I would feel vindicated when my children finally figured out their narcissistic father.   Instead, I just feel sad. The younger two have known for a while who and what their dad is.  Not much has changed for them. My eldest is the one I've worried about.  My ex always spent the most … Continue reading The Narcissistic Father

Rage

(see update at bottom)   I grew up with people subject to rage, and then married a man who did the same thing.  Here's the thing about rage: it's all about control.  Rage is not an expression of anger, it is a show put on by a disordered person, designed to flip the script; to … Continue reading Rage

Long Term Impact of Narcissist

I had a very difficult winter.  If you read my blog regularly you might have noticed I stopped writing.  I was struggling with a lingering virus (remember-if you are the victim of a narcissist your health is compromised), but that was not the whole story. I am increasingly aware of the long term impact of … Continue reading Long Term Impact of Narcissist

Be Proactive with Narcissist

I was advised, early in my divorce, to take control of the process.  Close accounts, force issues, freeze assets, etc.  I didn't, because I was conditioned to not threaten my narcissist.  I had been taught to think that revenge would be horrible.  I say conditioned because in retrospect, I can count on 1 hand the … Continue reading Be Proactive with Narcissist

Acting, Lies & the Narcissist

My youngest son drove me to a Dr's appointment tonight.    It's often illuminating spending time with captive children, and tonight did not disappoint. My son has recently started working as a cashier in the market down the street from our home.  While waiting for my prescription, he launched into a tirade about how much … Continue reading Acting, Lies & the Narcissist

How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person

I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years.  Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band.  In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job.  A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person