I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband. I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce". They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist
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Gaslighting: The Gift that Keeps on Giving
I was with my parents the other day. I don't recall the exact conversation, but I remember my mother saying "why on earth would you think that about yourself?" I told her it is hard to shake negative self-thoughts when it is all I've heard for over 20 years. She replied "what could … Continue reading Gaslighting: The Gift that Keeps on Giving
13 Projects
Yes - obviously plagiarized, but I think with merit. I recently decided to part ways with my realtor. I interviewed 3 new realtors, and 2 of the 3 told me I needed to undo one of my favorite features of my house: the wallpapered risers on the staircase. This will be my final project, because … Continue reading 13 Projects
Good Luck, Other Woman
Sometimes I write and write and feel like I've never really gotten to the heart of the matter. This blog is like that. I feel the message I'm trying to deliver, but my words feel inadequate, shallow, frivolous. I'll keep going, but I know that on some level I am blocking the root issue. Maybe … Continue reading Good Luck, Other Woman
Passive Aggressive Bullshit
Yes, this is a rant. I am so damned tired of passive aggressive bullshit I want to ...... I don't know what I want to do. I want to run away. I want to not wake up in the morning. I want to never read email, or take care of my home or my … Continue reading Passive Aggressive Bullshit
I Have A Feeling Hangover
I have a feeling hangover! Two years ago, when I started with my therapist, she said (and I repeatedly read) "you have to feel your feelings to get past them. You have to walk through them and FEEL them". I said WTF does that mean? I feel my feelings. I get sad, I cry, … Continue reading I Have A Feeling Hangover
Flashbacks
I've been mired in a flashback because of issues in my home. I stumbled cross the guru of flashbacks, Pete Walker. His site is pete-walker.com and I highly recommend it. As a relative newby to all of this, I needed a source that really breaks down what a flashback is, why it occurs, how it … Continue reading Flashbacks
Oopps I Did It Again
I Was Narced Again! My children learned from their dad how to talk me down, get their way, mess with my head. I call it "narcing". (Actually, I call it their dad's name + ing but here I'll call it narcing) My two boys who have been with me full time the past 2 years … Continue reading Oopps I Did It Again
Healing a Bankrupted Soul
I've read so many articles stating that if you are divorcing a narcissist, just cut your losses and walk away. Every single author says the same thing: you are fighting a losing battle, you will never win, and you will walk away financially bankrupt if you try to fight him. I agree with all of … Continue reading Healing a Bankrupted Soul
The Magic of the Covert Narcissist
It's like magic, what the covert narcissist (CN) does to your head. Today is a great example of how it works. I started my day feeling pretty good. I felt strong, capable, not bad looking for my age, and, believe it or not, Happy. I went to yoga and saw people who I feel … Continue reading The Magic of the Covert Narcissist
Groomed but Escaped 