Start Here

Often I am so overwhelmed with pain, confusion and fear that I make no progress.  I see no end to the pain caused by my covert narcissist; I see no future in which I can be happy and whole.  It is usually during these weeks that I somehow find a new resource - a website, … Continue reading Start Here

The Upside of Tantrums

Rage on you Tiny Children   I just read a blog from a young mother troubled about dealing with her youngest child's tantrums.  As is so often the case, many tantrums happen in public, and are embarrassing to parents.  It is difficult to know how to deal with them, especially when we are surrounded by … Continue reading The Upside of Tantrums

Toilet Seats & The Narcissist

As far as I can tell, there are 2 types of boys in the world:  those that put the seat down and those who don't.  My boys put the seat down, except in their own bathroom, when their girlfriends are not around.  I take no credit for this.  In fact, I think it is an … Continue reading Toilet Seats & The Narcissist

Just Say No – To Your Children’s “Advice”

When one of my boys says "mom, want my advice about what to do with [insert siblings name]" it invariably leads to a commentary on my failures as a mother. So, when I hear those words, "mom, want my advice" I say NO. Thanks for offering though.

Just Say No: to Sleep-Overs When Clocks Fall Back

Sleep over with teenage boys + falling back of clocks = disaster. Not only is there the usual amount of noise, mess & lack of sleep, but they have added incentive to stay awake until 2AM to watch the time change on their phones.

Love Bombing

Beware the Love Bomb The Love Bomber is a sociopath.  He/she will change their personality, their wardrobe, their hobbies, even their car to mirror you.  They will quietly learn all about you, and once they know enough about you, they’ll pounce.   In addition to liking everything you do, they’ll say things like: You understand me … Continue reading Love Bombing