I returned from a solo trip to Mexico 5 days ago. I went to be part of the Dia De Los Muertos celebrations (day of the dead). It turned out that this celebration was the least impactful part of the trip. I've been struggling to put into words what I discovered, but how do … Continue reading Finding Myself in Silence
For years my parents have told the following story. In 1958 they were newlyweds, my father worked for the navy and my mother was pregnant with her first child. After settling into an apartment they looked for a church, and they picked the one closest to their apartment. They attended every Sunday and, after their … Continue reading White Privelage
I've been experiencing increasing anxiety lately and today I sat down and gave some serious thought to why. I realize it is all tied to my taxes........sort of. Tomorrow I have to go to my ex's/our accountants office, , to ask for the signed K-1 and Cost Basis forms for my taxes. The accountant has … Continue reading Anxiety
I learned what a safe space is from an elderly gentleman who recently joined the yoga studio. The first time I met him he sat on the sofa and talked, about himself, the entire time I was trying to check students in. I was rather annoyed and, when he promised to finish a story after … Continue reading A Safe Space
How do I put this into words......... While I am not proud of how I behaved, last weekend I finally lost it with my parents. After spending the past year, hell - my entire life - trying to keep them happy, do the "right" thing, meet their needs, I lost it. I was accused of … Continue reading Who Must Bridge The Divide?
After my diagnosis in July of 2013 I made a decision: I would go through chemo, learn nothing, invest nothing, and never look back. Cancer would be a blip on my radar, not a life changer. Turned out my son was not going to let me get away with that. Having faced the possibility of … Continue reading Worldwide Ovarian Cancer Awareness Day
(As always, substitute her if you are a guy) I thought it might be fun for some of us regulars to share how our ex introduced his adulterer to our kids. I'll go first. I'll tell it from my point of view and his point of view (his in red. Like Scarlet Letter Red) ME: … Continue reading How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
I can't decide if I want this blog to be successful or not. In fact, the day I had the most reads, I went into a panic. What if my ex reads this? What if my kids read this? What if my parents read this? What will they think? What will they say? How … Continue reading To Blog or Not To Blog
I have 23 years of a relationship with a covert narcissist (CN) to dissect, and the question I keep asking my therapist is "are you sure?" How can you be sure he really is a CN, and I'm not just re-writing our story? What proof do you have that I didn't deserve to be treated … Continue reading Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism