Finding Myself in Silence

I returned from a solo trip to Mexico 5 days ago.  I went to be part of the Dia De Los Muertos celebrations (day of the dead). It turned out that this celebration was the least impactful part of the trip.    I've been struggling to put into words what I discovered, but how do … Continue reading Finding Myself in Silence

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White Privelage

For years my parents have told the following story. In 1958 they were newlyweds,  my father worked for the navy and my mother was pregnant with her first child.  After settling into an apartment they looked for a church, and they picked the one closest to their apartment.  They attended every Sunday and, after their … Continue reading White Privelage

Worldwide Ovarian Cancer Awareness Day

After my diagnosis in July of 2013 I made a decision:  I would go through chemo, learn nothing, invest nothing, and never look back.  Cancer would be a blip on my radar, not a life changer.  Turned out my son was not going to let me get away with that.  Having faced the possibility of … Continue reading Worldwide Ovarian Cancer Awareness Day

How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?

(As always, substitute her if you are a guy) I thought it might be fun for some of us regulars to share how our ex introduced his adulterer to our kids.  I'll go first.  I'll tell it from my point of view and his point of view (his in red.  Like Scarlet Letter Red) ME: … Continue reading How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?

Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism

I have 23 years of a relationship with a covert narcissist (CN) to dissect, and the question I keep asking my therapist is "are you sure?"  How can you be sure he really is a CN, and I'm not just re-writing our story?  What proof do you have that I didn't deserve to be treated … Continue reading Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism