Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

  Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people.  This is easy if you are completely breaking ties with someone you can walk away from.  But what about the people in your life you can't escape? Two summers ago I had a major altercation with my … Continue reading Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

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Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel

  If you are connected to a narcissist, you probably wrestle with your shadow self.  Some aspects of our shadow self are survival instincts no longer necessary to survive.  The most toxic parts of our shadow self though come from parents.  If you were raised by a narcissist or other disordered person, you have been  … Continue reading Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel

Words and Narcissistic Abuse

I didn't understand the power of words until I started recovering from narcissistic abuse.  My therapist started dissecting my language, and slowly I learned how toxic the narc (and other disordered people) are in their use of language.  I had put this issue aside until a co-worker started going through the separation/divorce process.  She started … Continue reading Words and Narcissistic Abuse

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

I have struggled with my bosses.  According to my therapist, I am expecting people who have consistently demonstrated that they don't have my back, to have my back.  An old pattern of mine,  and the definition of crazy! This weekend was my Ovarian Cancer walk.  The walk is held by a foundation I support all … Continue reading Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Mt Everest & Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse

I think that climbing Mt. Everest is comparable to recovering from narcissistic abuse.  For example: Mt Everest - requires Sherpas    Narcissistic abuse recovery  (NAR)requires therapists, body workers, spiritual leaders & more Mt Everest requires attention to your body, before, during and after.   NAR requires attention to your body before, during and after. Mt Everest … Continue reading Mt Everest & Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse

Non-Negotiables and Narcissists

Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables!   During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate".  Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you.  All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists