Triggers are unique to each individual, everyone has them, and they sometimes come out of the blue. I learned this the hard way this week. My work environment has been understaffed and, towards the end of the summer, we finally brought on board 3 new staff members. Honestly, I was disappointed when I met … Continue reading Triggers
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Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0
I wrote Sex & the Covert Narc four years ago, and it continues to be my most often read entry. I decided it was time to update my thoughts in regards to sex. If you read my 1st blog you know that sex was one of the triggers my ex used. When I was … Continue reading Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0
Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People
Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people. This is easy if you are completely breaking ties with someone you can walk away from. But what about the people in your life you can't escape? Two summers ago I had a major altercation with my … Continue reading Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People
Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel
If you are connected to a narcissist, you probably wrestle with your shadow self. Some aspects of our shadow self are survival instincts no longer necessary to survive. The most toxic parts of our shadow self though come from parents. If you were raised by a narcissist or other disordered person, you have been … Continue reading Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel
The Narcissistic Father
I thought I would feel vindicated when my children finally figured out their narcissistic father. Instead, I just feel sad. The younger two have known for a while who and what their dad is. Not much has changed for them. My eldest is the one I've worried about. My ex always spent the most … Continue reading The Narcissistic Father
Words and Narcissistic Abuse
I didn't understand the power of words until I started recovering from narcissistic abuse. My therapist started dissecting my language, and slowly I learned how toxic the narc (and other disordered people) are in their use of language. I had put this issue aside until a co-worker started going through the separation/divorce process. She started … Continue reading Words and Narcissistic Abuse
Cheaters & Liars
Strange story - in the last episode of the Connor's Jackie figured out that her boyfriend was cheating on her, and she kicked him to the curb. Watching this took me down memory lane. Everything he says to her is something my ex said to me. Things like: if you accuse me of cheating you're … Continue reading Cheaters & Liars
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
I have struggled with my bosses. According to my therapist, I am expecting people who have consistently demonstrated that they don't have my back, to have my back. An old pattern of mine, and the definition of crazy! This weekend was my Ovarian Cancer walk. The walk is held by a foundation I support all … Continue reading Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Loneliness and the Narcissist
The issue of loneliness has been on my mind because I've been cooped up with a broken foot. This past weekend my son was with his dad and, with the exception of my neighbor walking my dog and a friend bringing me groceries, I spent the entire weekend alone. In all the time I was … Continue reading Loneliness and the Narcissist
Mt Everest & Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
I think that climbing Mt. Everest is comparable to recovering from narcissistic abuse. For example: Mt Everest - requires Sherpas Narcissistic abuse recovery (NAR)requires therapists, body workers, spiritual leaders & more Mt Everest requires attention to your body, before, during and after. NAR requires attention to your body before, during and after. Mt Everest … Continue reading Mt Everest & Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
Groomed but Escaped 