I'm feeling a bit angry right now. If you don't follow my blog, here's the key points to know: 1) I spent 25 years with, and am now divorcing, a covert narcissist 2) Yoga has become one of my coping techniques 3) I live in a small community, and me & the ex-narc have … Continue reading Forgiveness: Not For The Narcissist
recovery
Mt. Everest
I've been writing about my recovery (much more than what I've posted) and it dawned on me that this Trek we are on, recovering from narcissistic abuse, might be similar to submitting Mt. Everest. Once the idea occurred to me I started reading up on Everest and I am stunned by much of what I … Continue reading Mt. Everest
Healing a Bankrupted Soul
I've read so many articles stating that if you are divorcing a narcissist, just cut your losses and walk away. Every single author says the same thing: you are fighting a losing battle, you will never win, and you will walk away financially bankrupt if you try to fight him. I agree with all of … Continue reading Healing a Bankrupted Soul
Journey vs. Trek
I've hated the word "journey" ever since I was diagnosed with cancer. When first diagnosed, you enter a surreal world in which you are purported to be many things you are not: a hero, a fighter, a warrior, an inspiration, and on a journey. It's crazy, because it happens in no other medical condition; … Continue reading Journey vs. Trek
Signs I Saw But Never Connected
Narcissists Love A Good Show!
One of the reasons we get hooked by the covert narc is that they take every Public Opportunity to be the Good Guy. Everyone raves about what a great guy they are, because everything they do is in public. This week is the perfect example, and thank God, I see it for what it is. … Continue reading Narcissists Love A Good Show!
My AHA! Moment
If happened this morning! All of the writing, reading, talking, meditating, ruminating, examining and yoga all came together this morning and I GOT IT! It has taken a long time to get here, and I know I am still a work in progress, but I finally feel like it's a journey worth taking. I want … Continue reading My AHA! Moment
Prince + Yoga
Do Prince and yoga seem like a good combination to you? Not to me. Never the less, I found myself signing up for a pop-up Prince Music Yoga class. I spent the entire day feeling confident I wouldn't actually go. I haven't listened to Prince since his '85 Purple Rain tour. I loved that album. … Continue reading Prince + Yoga
Persistent or Tenacious?
I was once asked in a job interview if I considered myself persistent or tenacious. Having no idea what tenacious meant I answered persistent. When I got home and looked up the definition of tenacious, I realized I am usually tenacious; to a fault. Yesterday I was trying to print transfers for shirts and nothing … Continue reading Persistent or Tenacious?
The Magic of the Covert Narcissist
It's like magic, what the covert narcissist (CN) does to your head. Today is a great example of how it works. I started my day feeling pretty good. I felt strong, capable, not bad looking for my age, and, believe it or not, Happy. I went to yoga and saw people who I feel … Continue reading The Magic of the Covert Narcissist
Groomed but Escaped 