The Real Me - I've been trying to figure out who I am. I was the bad seed in my family; the one who didn't quite fit but gave others a great laugh (not with, but at). I've worked hard all of my life to not be who I am, and now that I'd … Continue reading Personality Traits: Both Good & Bad
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People Pleaser: Time To Reform
http://yoganonymous.com/the-dark-side-of-people-pleasing This is a whole new take on People Pleasing behavior. This is something I've done my whole life; except when I've gone off the rails, which I've also done! It seems to me that there has to be a middle ground between people pleasing and losing it, checking out, ranting, and I think I've … Continue reading People Pleaser: Time To Reform
Damn Right I’m a Drama Queen
I admit it: I'm a Drama Queen (DQ from here on out because I'm tired. Actually, I'm......exhausted /dramatic). Part of me is a DQ. One of the stories my mother often tells about me is how dramatic I was when physically hurt. Apparently, I would scream and howl the entire way to the ER. As … Continue reading Damn Right I’m a Drama Queen
My Tender Self
Admit to what you feel greedy about. It will point to your most tender desire. This is one of Danielle LaPorte's "Truth Bomb"s. If you aren't familiar, Truth Bombs are a box of cards with insightful and/or thought provoking statements, designed to "break open your heart and soothe your soul". There is a box of … Continue reading My Tender Self
What’s Left of Me?
It's ironic that I have a Master's degree in Psychology but had no real idea what the buzzwords actually meant. Words like emotional abuse, projection, dissociation, and denial, all so relevant to the therapeutic process, were only concepts; ideas I could define but not really relate to. It's a good thing I decided not to … Continue reading What’s Left of Me?
Share Your Fondest Childhood Memory
Brene Brown is one of my favorite authors, and I've devoured each of her books. As much as I love her writing, her Ted Talks and her website, I've not been able to do much with her information. The only step I've taken is this blog, in which I'm trying to re-claim my authentic … Continue reading Share Your Fondest Childhood Memory
Scapegoats
a person or group made to bear the blame for others or to suffer in their place. 'Thrown to the Wolves" Boundaries. Scapegoats. Abuse. How do I put these words together in a way that rings true to me? How do I get past the idea that I'm "bashing" family, "attacking people who did … Continue reading Scapegoats
I Have A Feeling Hangover
I have a feeling hangover! Two years ago, when I started with my therapist, she said (and I repeatedly read) "you have to feel your feelings to get past them. You have to walk through them and FEEL them". I said WTF does that mean? I feel my feelings. I get sad, I cry, … Continue reading I Have A Feeling Hangover
Flashbacks
I've been mired in a flashback because of issues in my home. I stumbled cross the guru of flashbacks, Pete Walker. His site is pete-walker.com and I highly recommend it. As a relative newby to all of this, I needed a source that really breaks down what a flashback is, why it occurs, how it … Continue reading Flashbacks
Oopps I Did It Again
I Was Narced Again! My children learned from their dad how to talk me down, get their way, mess with my head. I call it "narcing". (Actually, I call it their dad's name + ing but here I'll call it narcing) My two boys who have been with me full time the past 2 years … Continue reading Oopps I Did It Again
Groomed but Escaped 