Love Bombing

Dirty John While I've accepted that I was love bombed by a covert narcissist, I still struggle with how it happened.  In retrospect, everything was so clear.  His actions did not match his words, he lied to everyone around him in order to see me, he went through jobs like others go through socks and … Continue reading Love Bombing

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Finding Myself in Silence

I returned from a solo trip to Mexico 5 days ago.  I went to be part of the Dia De Los Muertos celebrations (day of the dead). It turned out that this celebration was the least impactful part of the trip.    I've been struggling to put into words what I discovered, but how do … Continue reading Finding Myself in Silence

Tips & Tricks-Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

Those taking on the challenge of climbing Mt. Everest arrive at base camp between March & April. They spend a few weeks at base camp, acclimatizing to the altitude, taking short day trips, getting to know their companions and, I assume, learning tips and tricks for the dangerous climb ahead.  I can't imagine traversing the … Continue reading Tips & Tricks-Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse

Often the most dangerous part of climbing Mt Everest is the descent. By the time the climber begins her descent she is exhausted yet exhilarated. This is a dangerous combination. On the one hand the climber feels invincible. On the other hand, she is really too tired and overwhelmed with emotion to make rational choices. … Continue reading Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse

Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter

My brother and his wife adopted a 2 year old girl from Russia 16 years ago. She has been both a joy and a nightmare, often within a single day.  Currently she is leaning towards nightmare, and my brother and his wife spend every day afraid for her.  I spent time with them all yesterday and … Continue reading Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter

Self Compassion After Narcissistic Abuse

As I enter my fourth year of recovery from narcissistic abuse, I find myself exhausted and bitter because of the layers of damage I have to peel away. I thought I was in a really good place because  I'd been feeling really good about myself.  One nagging issue though, had me wondering how well I … Continue reading Self Compassion After Narcissistic Abuse