In the US we are currently witnessing a narcissistic, powerful, wealthy man lose his status. Many have wondered if his young wife will divorce him. My children were laughing about how well off she'd be if she did divorce him. Having divorced a narcissist, I'm very aware of the price we pay, and the actual … Continue reading Divorcing a Narcissist: The Aftermath
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Words and Narcissistic Abuse
I didn't understand the power of words until I started recovering from narcissistic abuse. My therapist started dissecting my language, and slowly I learned how toxic the narc (and other disordered people) are in their use of language. I had put this issue aside until a co-worker started going through the separation/divorce process. She started … Continue reading Words and Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissists, Stress & Health
After the first few years of chronic illnesses my family started to say to me "do you think it's stress?". I was flummoxed as to how to answer. Of course it was stress. I was a mother of 3 young children, I co-owned a restaurant with my spouse, he was never at home, and when … Continue reading Narcissists, Stress & Health
A Letter to the Narcissists Mother
As I near the end of my association with my ex narc I am pondering what I'd like to say to his mother. Over the past 3 years there have been many a harsh word I would have loved to have shared with her. As I see the end on the horizon, I've come up … Continue reading A Letter to the Narcissists Mother
Bank Of America – Power Mongers
Not sure what a PS is when put before the blog, but had to add this information I stumbled across. It is all a scam, with tax payers $. https://www.hbsslaw.com/cases/bank-of-america-rico/pressrelease/bank-of-america-rico-appeals-court-reverses-rico-fraud-class-action-against-bank-of-america-allowing-homeowners-lawsuit-to-proceed Bank Of America. Wow. Just wow. The details are complicated, so I'll try to sum up what has happened quickly. I was … Continue reading Bank Of America – Power Mongers
Manipulation or Management
I was talking to an acquaintance about issues raising children, like getting them on the bus. She was having trouble with her son, and she had implemented some new rules. She said she wasn't sure if she was manipulating or managing him, and I was struck by this idea. Manipulation, in our society, has a … Continue reading Manipulation or Management
Good Luck, Other Woman
Sometimes I write and write and feel like I've never really gotten to the heart of the matter. This blog is like that. I feel the message I'm trying to deliver, but my words feel inadequate, shallow, frivolous. I'll keep going, but I know that on some level I am blocking the root issue. Maybe … Continue reading Good Luck, Other Woman
Teachers + Social Media
I have a friend who is taking on our school district. 15 months ago she found out a teacher was snap chatting her 17 year old son. On weekends, at night time, during school hours there are snap chats, usually numbering in the teens. If you are unfamiliar with snap chat, it is an app … Continue reading Teachers + Social Media
Damn Right I’m a Drama Queen
I admit it: I'm a Drama Queen (DQ from here on out because I'm tired. Actually, I'm......exhausted /dramatic). Part of me is a DQ. One of the stories my mother often tells about me is how dramatic I was when physically hurt. Apparently, I would scream and howl the entire way to the ER. As … Continue reading Damn Right I’m a Drama Queen
Groomed but Escaped 