What Charlotte Taught Me Meet Charlotte. She's the one with 3 legs. I'm the one with 2 legs. While I might be the one writing this blog, I am only repeating what Charlotte taught me. It might be useful to anyone going through any type of trauma, whether it be an illness, divorce, abuse, a … Continue reading Let It Be
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Live Like You Deserve To
I have spent a lifetime being told I have a great imagination. Actually, great is not usually the word that is used. I usually hear "vivid" or "active". When these words are used it is meant to convey the fact that I am wrong. I am mis-remembering, making things up, foolish or childish. As I write … Continue reading Live Like You Deserve To
Triggers, Dissociation and Grounding
This link landed in my mailbox, and I think it is a great source as we head into the holiday weekend. Happy Reading and have a great weekend! https://mailchi.mp/36a88487e26f/we-need-to-talk-about-triggers-emotional-flashbacks-dissociation?e=d8e3e8aaee
Karma-A Narcissists’ Best Friend
Note: If we are friends/relatives in real life, this is the one and only time I will discuss this subject. Today, Mother's Day, two of my three sons took me out to eat. The third hasn't spoken to me in 1 year, 355 days, ever since his dad took him in when I tried to … Continue reading Karma-A Narcissists’ Best Friend
Self Compassion After Narcissistic Abuse
As I enter my fourth year of recovery from narcissistic abuse, I find myself exhausted and bitter because of the layers of damage I have to peel away. I thought I was in a really good place because I'd been feeling really good about myself. One nagging issue though, had me wondering how well I … Continue reading Self Compassion After Narcissistic Abuse
Change
Change I watch the ripples change their size but never leave the stream of warm impermanence and so the days float through my eyes but still the days seem the same. David Bowie August August represents the end of carefree days and overfilled late summer nights, the end of freedom. As a child, August was … Continue reading Change
The Crime of Emotions
I was just told by my father "you always do this - you don't stop and think things through, then later you say 'oh, I wish I had done this differently'". Why did he say this? Because he didn't like a decision I've made. I asked him for some examples, and he started to … Continue reading The Crime of Emotions
Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Recovering from Narcissist abuse is a long term endeavor. I have developed a step program (will share later) and I still revisit some of the earlier steps. I often have to reassure myself that I am not imaging my abuse. I've been pondering lately why this is. What is it about the narcissist abuse … Continue reading Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
How To Survive Divorcing a Narcissistic Asshole In the Order You'll Face Them (I say guy, could be girl) If you are like me, you are heading in to a divorce with someone you suspect is a Bad Guy, perhaps a narcissist. Trust me when I tell you: If you suspect it, it is true. … Continue reading Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
The Circus versus the Magician I just spent time with my uncle, a bon-a-fide covert narcissist of the somatic sub-type (obsessed with his looks & physical prowess). I had planned to work on implementing boundaries, but it took little time to realize I was fighting a losing battle. At the end of my time … Continue reading Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
Groomed but Escaped 