Strange story - in the last episode of the Connor's Jackie figured out that her boyfriend was cheating on her, and she kicked him to the curb. Watching this took me down memory lane. Everything he says to her is something my ex said to me. Things like: if you accuse me of cheating you're … Continue reading Cheaters & Liars
In the weeks leading up to Christmas I told my children I was making cheese steak egg rolls & other picky foods for Christmas dinner. They loved the idea. They were especially excited for the cheese steak egg rolls, and they talked about it every time we saw each other in the weeks leading … Continue reading What I Meant to Do…..
I returned from a solo trip to Mexico 5 days ago. I went to be part of the Dia De Los Muertos celebrations (day of the dead). It turned out that this celebration was the least impactful part of the trip. I've been struggling to put into words what I discovered, but how do … Continue reading Finding Myself in Silence
Those taking on the challenge of climbing Mt. Everest arrive at base camp between March & April. They spend a few weeks at base camp, acclimatizing to the altitude, taking short day trips, getting to know their companions and, I assume, learning tips and tricks for the dangerous climb ahead. I can't imagine traversing the … Continue reading Tips & Tricks-Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse
If you are stuck in a toxic relationship, there are concrete steps you can take to escape. Comparing this endeavor to climbing Mt. Everest, here is a list of steps to take to begin recovery. Using these steps to establish a new base camp for your life.
Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist. This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were. I know - seems mighty innocuous, right? … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries
Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse A friend gave me this orchid last September. She told me Orchids require sun, so I put it on a shelf by my front door that gets light. Then I waited. And waited. And waited. A few months later, two leaves were cracked, one with what appeared to be a … Continue reading Bloom Like an Orchid
What Charlotte Taught Me Meet Charlotte. She's the one with 3 legs. I'm the one with 2 legs. While I might be the one writing this blog, I am only repeating what Charlotte taught me. It might be useful to anyone going through any type of trauma, whether it be an illness, divorce, abuse, a … Continue reading Let It Be
I have spent a lifetime being told I have a great imagination. Actually, great is not usually the word that is used. I usually hear "vivid" or "active". When these words are used it is meant to convey the fact that I am wrong. I am mis-remembering, making things up, foolish or childish. As I write … Continue reading Live Like You Deserve To
This link landed in my mailbox, and I think it is a great source as we head into the holiday weekend. Happy Reading and have a great weekend! https://mailchi.mp/36a88487e26f/we-need-to-talk-about-triggers-emotional-flashbacks-dissociation?e=d8e3e8aaee