As I near the end of my association with my ex narc I am pondering what I'd like to say to his mother. Over the past 3 years there have been many a harsh word I would have loved to have shared with her. As I see the end on the horizon, I've come up … Continue reading A Letter to the Narcissists Mother
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Gaslighting: The Gift that Keeps on Giving
I was with my parents the other day. I don't recall the exact conversation, but I remember my mother saying "why on earth would you think that about yourself?" I told her it is hard to shake negative self-thoughts when it is all I've heard for over 20 years. She replied "what could … Continue reading Gaslighting: The Gift that Keeps on Giving
Manipulation or Management
I was talking to an acquaintance about issues raising children, like getting them on the bus. She was having trouble with her son, and she had implemented some new rules. She said she wasn't sure if she was manipulating or managing him, and I was struck by this idea. Manipulation, in our society, has a … Continue reading Manipulation or Management
Strange Yogi Sayings
I am often puzzled (my nice way of saying WTF??) at what is said at my yoga studio. Phrases often seem obvious, ridiculous or simply crazy. This weekend I came to understand 2 such phrases, one of which I'll write about here. I spent the entire weekend doing a "Sing Yourself Awake" workshop with Suzanne … Continue reading Strange Yogi Sayings
Toilet Seats
I need some lightening up so..... A while back I wrote a blog about toilet seats & narcissists. My narc never put the seat down. When I complained he said "I think you should have to put it up for me". When I pointed out that he wasn't likely to fall in he responded........with … Continue reading Toilet Seats
Keeper of the Family
Over the last 3 years I've prepared to downsize. Significantly. I'm currently in a 3500+ square foot single home, and I've been preparing to move to a much smaller townhouse. I've gone through every square inch of the house and thrown out or sold things I didn't need, and packed up our family memories in … Continue reading Keeper of the Family
13 Projects
Yes - obviously plagiarized, but I think with merit. I recently decided to part ways with my realtor. I interviewed 3 new realtors, and 2 of the 3 told me I needed to undo one of my favorite features of my house: the wallpapered risers on the staircase. This will be my final project, because … Continue reading 13 Projects
Swimming in a Sea Of Insanity
“It hurts to look at the clouds, but it also helps, like most things that cause pain.” ― Matthew Quick, The Silver Linings Playbook When my middle son was a toddler he would ask me questions. A lot of questions. Questions I couldn't answer. He didn't ask the usual unanswerable questions, like "why is … Continue reading Swimming in a Sea Of Insanity
Projection
This is embarrassing to admit - even with a MA degree in Psychology I did not understand the power of projection. I loved studying Psychology but honestly, I approached it the way Catholics approach the bible. The ideas/stories in the bible, according to Catholicism, are metaphorical. I don't think I've ever heard a Catholic claim … Continue reading Projection
When Bad Things Happen To Bad People
I think it's called Karma? Background: The support my ex was stipulated to pay was increased, substantially, on 2/1 The amount he actually paid did not go up. At all. His response, when I asked him about it, was "that's between the state and my employer. I have nothing to do with it" I spent … Continue reading When Bad Things Happen To Bad People
Groomed but Escaped 