If you are mired in the clutches of a narcissist you probably have no idea what boundaries are, let alone how to use them. I am a newbie to boundaries so my information is limited, but I am an expert on a lack of boundaries and the end result. Boundaries, if you don't know, are … Continue reading Boundaries Enrich Life
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How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
(As always, substitute her if you are a guy) I thought it might be fun for some of us regulars to share how our ex introduced his adulterer to our kids. I'll go first. I'll tell it from my point of view and his point of view (his in red. Like Scarlet Letter Red) ME: … Continue reading How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
How To Survive Divorcing a Narcissistic Asshole In the Order You'll Face Them (I say guy, could be girl) If you are like me, you are heading in to a divorce with someone you suspect is a Bad Guy, perhaps a narcissist. Trust me when I tell you: If you suspect it, it is true. … Continue reading Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
The Mess Left By The Narcissist
How The Narcissist Steals Your Health, Your Sanity & Your Soul Now that my divorce is final I get to sell my house. I had thought last fall that we might be coming to an agreement, and my cousins and I did a lot of work to get the house ready for marketing. When … Continue reading The Mess Left By The Narcissist
Ode to a Cheater
My favorite blogger is ChumpLady. She has turned calling bullshit on cheaters into an art form. Naturally, when she put out the call for Valentine Poems to our cheaters, I had to comply. I had so much fun writing this I thought I'd share. Enjoy! Your face was so sad when you first came … Continue reading Ode to a Cheater
It Is Not Your Fault
Divorcing A Narcissist I have just come to a divorce settlement with my covert narc (CN). It took almost 3 years, and it was hell. As I get over the constant fear I realize how bad it really was. The most important thing I've learned is this: This was not my fault. I was … Continue reading It Is Not Your Fault
What If?
I know....don't get your hopes up. Tomorrow is a hearing in front of a "Master" regarding distribution of property. This is how a contentious divorce works in PA. If the parties are not amenable to binding arbitration, the process is broken into 3 parts: support, custody and equitable distribution. On the surface this seems … Continue reading What If?
Cancer Saved My Life
I received the transcript from my spouse's deposition today, and I started reading it. I was floored on the 1st page, when he spoke about how our divorce came about. I remember the moment as if it happened yesterday. It is forever seared into my brain. It was 9:20AM. I was in the kitchen preparing … Continue reading Cancer Saved My Life
How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
Here I sit, on the precipice of a new year, and all I can think is What The Fuck?? How did I get here? How did I become the one people whisper about in the grocery store. “Oh, you remember her, she’s about to lose her house, and I know...it makes no sense. How did … Continue reading How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
During this 3rd year of my separation I've become increasingly reclusive, and I haven't been sure why. The other night I figured it out. I was talking to a friend who had just scarfed down 2 bagels and pound of M & M's and was in a shame spiral. I'm the ideal person to call … Continue reading The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
Groomed but Escaped 