Gaslighting

The term Gaslighting appears often these days. I recently read an article titled "Employers Gaslight Employees to Return to Office". The title left me with a knot in my gut. As we recover from Covid shutdowns, employers are anxious to have employees return to the office, but gaslighting them? Clearly this was written by someone … Continue reading Gaslighting

Divorcing a Narcissist: The Aftermath

In the US we are currently witnessing a narcissistic, powerful, wealthy man lose his status. Many have wondered if his young wife will divorce him. My children were laughing about how well off she'd be if she did divorce him. Having divorced a narcissist, I'm very aware of the price we pay, and the actual … Continue reading Divorcing a Narcissist: The Aftermath

The Permanence Of Heartbreak

(background info- my brothers beach house is next door to my mothers, and there is constant competition about who is staying with her, and she gets pretty crazy when I stay with my brother, which I do most often because, well...she's sort of crazy)   Five years later there are still times I  can't breathe.  … Continue reading The Permanence Of Heartbreak

Divorcing a Narcissist – Ultimate Cluster***k

This is for one of my BFF's, who is taking the initial steps towards divorcing her narc.   HANG IN THERE!   Remember when I brought enough alcohol for 3 of us to the ball field, then drank it all myself and your son had to drive me home? Remember me crying when he stopped … Continue reading Divorcing a Narcissist – Ultimate Cluster***k

Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

  Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people.  This is easy if you are completely breaking ties with someone you can walk away from.  But what about the people in your life you can't escape? Two summers ago I had a major altercation with my … Continue reading Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

Words and Narcissistic Abuse

I didn't understand the power of words until I started recovering from narcissistic abuse.  My therapist started dissecting my language, and slowly I learned how toxic the narc (and other disordered people) are in their use of language.  I had put this issue aside until a co-worker started going through the separation/divorce process.  She started … Continue reading Words and Narcissistic Abuse