How easy it is to forget how bad things were once we're on our way to recovery. I did just that - forgot that while I've come to love my mother, she will never be an empathetic person. It happened this weekend. My brother has not spoken to either parent for over 3 years … Continue reading The Narcissistic Mother
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What I Meant to Do – Cell Phones
If you were to ask anyone who knows me what my super power is, they would all say the same thing: Losing My Cellphone. If this was a sport I'd be captain, and handily lead my team to victory. I lose my phone at least once a day. When people ask me what I … Continue reading What I Meant to Do – Cell Phones
What I Meant to Do – January 1
I've begun this year obsessed with clearing out the clutter in my home. I have a 4 story townhouse which I purchased thinking I would rent out the loft - a large bedroom with it's own bathroom, spectacular light and a pretty view. When I first moved in I let my 16 year old move … Continue reading What I Meant to Do – January 1
Rewriting My Script
Odd that it is watching, and enjoying, the SuperBowl that has brought me clarity around the concept of the roles we are assigned, and accept. In my family of origin I was given the role of quiet, perfect Murphy, not the brightest, but certainly the sweetest of the bunch. Through that lens I came to … Continue reading Rewriting My Script
Unconditional Love
This will be short because I am exhausted and not feeling well, but feeling compelled to write. Yesterday was the funeral for my bosses son. It was beautiful. She and her spouse gave the Eulogy, and there are no words to describe it. They were funny, poignant, joyous and sad. They spoke primarily to their … Continue reading Unconditional Love
A Letter To My Son(s)
I had dinner with 2 of my sons tonight. One is turning 25 in a few weeks, and he told me his plan. He wants to rent a party bus which will take a bunch of people around the city for a safe night of partying. He mentioned it because he wanted to know - … Continue reading A Letter To My Son(s)
A Letter to the Narcissists Mother
As I near the end of my association with my ex narc I am pondering what I'd like to say to his mother. Over the past 3 years there have been many a harsh word I would have loved to have shared with her. As I see the end on the horizon, I've come up … Continue reading A Letter to the Narcissists Mother
Love
passive aggressive relationships Last week I ran into the spouse of one of my BFF's. They are currently separated, at her request. The only impediment to their divorce is her inability to afford a lawyer. He wants them to get back together, and he took the opportunity to plead his case. He has 3 reasons … Continue reading Love
I Love My Job
How goofy is this: I Love the part time job I've been given at my yoga studio. I love having somewhere to be. I love people smiling at me, and saying Thank You. I love the owners saying I'm doing a good job, and a client saying "I'm so happy I got you on … Continue reading I Love My Job
Bummed Out Mom
Lately I've been obsessed with family tv shows. Inevitably, the mom has some nugget of wisdom that carries her children through their life. When times are bad they think of her words and are comforted. I can remember two of my mom's nuggets. The 1st was "when you meet someone new, remember they are as … Continue reading Bummed Out Mom
Groomed but Escaped 