Funny story...... My ex recently changed his job. He told our son that he was doing it because he wouldn't have to work weekends, and would have every other Friday off. Lo and behold, he's now working every Friday & every weekend. My son told me this when I asked how he gets to work … Continue reading Cheating Narcissist
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Disability, Prejudice & the Narcissist
I am prejudiced. 100% prejudiced. I am prejudiced against people with disabilities. Which makes it mighty tough to be a person with disabilities! I was raised to believe that you must be doing something constructive each waking hour. Work/school were not to be missed, even if you were deathly ill. "Leisure time" was used to … Continue reading Disability, Prejudice & the Narcissist
Breaking up With A Narcissist
Not Your Normal BreakUp Most people assume they understand the depths of any issue you have, and can't wait to tell you how to fix it. For example, I have insomnia. There are a number of reasons for it, but chief among them is an adrenaline based inhaler I use in the morning and at … Continue reading Breaking up With A Narcissist
Loneliness and the Narcissist
The issue of loneliness has been on my mind because I've been cooped up with a broken foot. This past weekend my son was with his dad and, with the exception of my neighbor walking my dog and a friend bringing me groceries, I spent the entire weekend alone. In all the time I was … Continue reading Loneliness and the Narcissist
Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables! During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate". Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you. All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Narcissists Seal The Deal
I had lunch with my eldest son yesterday. It turned out to be serendipitous that I asked him to meet me for lunch, because he had something to share with me. His dad, my ex, is having a big party tonight where he intends to propose marriage to his paramour. My son was very nervous … Continue reading Narcissists Seal The Deal
The Narcissist & Quicksand
Occasionally I find a subject that fascinates me, and I spend hours learning about it. Mt. Everest and Fairy Circles are two examples. Ask me anything - I probably know the answer. Today I am pondering quicksand. The more I learn about it the more similarities I find between quicksand and the narcissist. You don't … Continue reading The Narcissist & Quicksand
The Mess Left By The Narcissist
How The Narcissist Steals Your Health, Your Sanity & Your Soul Now that my divorce is final I get to sell my house. I had thought last fall that we might be coming to an agreement, and my cousins and I did a lot of work to get the house ready for marketing. When … Continue reading The Mess Left By The Narcissist
What Was I Thinking?
When my spouse 1st left me and gave me his proposal for support and division of property, I was horrified. It was so clear that his intent was to walk away and wash his hands of responsibility for me and his children. It was such a horrible offer, I didn't even consider it. How stupid … Continue reading What Was I Thinking?
My Stupid Inner Critic
At therapy this week my therapist said "we have to get rid of that inner critic, always putting you down" and the 1st thought that popped into my head was "I know. I'm so stupid for doing that". What a predicament! How can I get rid of the voice that constantly criticizes me, when I'm … Continue reading My Stupid Inner Critic
Groomed but Escaped 