Love Bombing

Dirty John While I've accepted that I was love bombed by a covert narcissist, I still struggle with how it happened.  In retrospect, everything was so clear.  His actions did not match his words, he lied to everyone around him in order to see me, he went through jobs like others go through socks and … Continue reading Love Bombing

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Drama Feeds Narcissists

If you have children, you are familiar with the difficulty of getting them to do chores.  You start calmly explaining what they need to do, they respond "sure", then wander off and turn on the TV.   You wait a few minutes, convinced that they are mulling over the project and intend to get to it … Continue reading Drama Feeds Narcissists

Disability, Prejudice & the Narcissist

I am prejudiced. 100% prejudiced.  I am prejudiced against people with disabilities.  Which makes it mighty tough to be a person with disabilities! I was raised to believe that you must be doing something constructive each waking hour.  Work/school were not to be missed, even if you were deathly ill.  "Leisure time" was used to … Continue reading Disability, Prejudice & the Narcissist

Non-Negotiables and Narcissists

Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables!   During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate".  Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you.  All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists

The Narcissist & Quicksand

Occasionally I find a subject that fascinates me, and I spend hours learning about it.  Mt. Everest and Fairy Circles are two examples.  Ask me anything - I probably know the answer.  Today I am pondering quicksand.  The more I learn about it the more similarities I find between quicksand and the narcissist. You don't … Continue reading The Narcissist & Quicksand