It’s About Community

Isolation = the narcissists greatest weapon The narcissist slowly separates you from all the people you once knew.   Zooming in on your natural ambivalence towards your family and friends, the narcissist highlights the negatives of all around you; becomes your "protector" against them.  If that isn't enough, he stands between you and who ever … Continue reading It’s About Community

I Know I Look Good

At the age of 35, shortly after giving birth to my second son, I rolled in to my "journey" of disability. I strapped on my roller blades, something I'd done a thousand times before, but, before I'd pushed off from my car, lost my breath.   This was my first full blown asthma attack, and … Continue reading I Know I Look Good

The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist

During this 3rd year of my separation I've become increasingly reclusive, and I haven't been sure why.  The other night I figured it out. I was talking to a friend who had just scarfed down 2 bagels and pound of M & M's and was in a shame spiral.  I'm the ideal person to call … Continue reading The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist

The Lie Sundae: The Narc’s Weapon

The Worse thing about being lied to is knowing you weren't worth the truth. I recently read these words, by an author I don't know, and I've been thinking about them.  I imagine in  a healthy relationship this might be true.  I've not been in a healthy relationship, so I don't know.  Do healthy couples … Continue reading The Lie Sundae: The Narc’s Weapon