I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years. Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band. In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job. A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
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Alimony & The Narcissist
I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband. I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce". They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist
The Gift of Me
Tonight, after a particularly contentious legal day, I sit writing. I am surrounded by the candles and Christmas decorations I've accumulated through the years, and wondering what they mean. This is my 3rd Christmas separated, and it is the hardest, and I've been pondering this. I'm sitting at my dining room table with the … Continue reading The Gift of Me
Support Is Everything
I learned a valuable lesson this summer while surfing. I learned that without the proper support, I am doomed to failure, but with the proper support I am destined to succeed. Here's what happened. I've always wanted to surf. Last summer, as I sat on the beach watching my kids surf, I decided it … Continue reading Support Is Everything
Damn Right I’m a Drama Queen
I admit it: I'm a Drama Queen (DQ from here on out because I'm tired. Actually, I'm......exhausted /dramatic). Part of me is a DQ. One of the stories my mother often tells about me is how dramatic I was when physically hurt. Apparently, I would scream and howl the entire way to the ER. As … Continue reading Damn Right I’m a Drama Queen
To Blog or Not To Blog
I can't decide if I want this blog to be successful or not. In fact, the day I had the most reads, I went into a panic. What if my ex reads this? What if my kids read this? What if my parents read this? What will they think? What will they say? How … Continue reading To Blog or Not To Blog
My 1st Thanksgiving & Gratitude
Yesterday was the 1st time I've hosted a holiday dinner alone. Before my marriage I lived alone and accepted others' invites, so no stress there. Once married, my ex, the Chef, did the cooking for holiday meals. Last year, the first round of holidays post separation, my parents and cousins bailed me out, my … Continue reading My 1st Thanksgiving & Gratitude
Silver Linings of Cancer – Gratitude
It's hard to find the good in cancer, yet it is there. While still in treatment I found it imperative to focus on the good, since treatment is pretty damn bad. Here's what I came up with. My top 10 silver linings 10. No more bad hair days. And, no need to shave! 9. … Continue reading Silver Linings of Cancer – Gratitude
Groomed but Escaped 