What I Meant to Do – Cell Phones

  If you were to ask anyone who knows me what my super power is, they would all say the same thing:  Losing My Cellphone.  If this was a sport I'd be captain, and handily lead my team to victory.  I lose my phone at least once a day.  When people ask me what I … Continue reading What I Meant to Do – Cell Phones

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It’s All About The Guest List

Just a quick thought for the holidays.......   I used to get super stressed about Christmas.  I wanted so badly for it to be perfect that by the time the day was there I was sick.  Every single year.    And every year my (now) ex would look at me, a puzzled look on his … Continue reading It’s All About The Guest List

Tips & Tricks-Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

Those taking on the challenge of climbing Mt. Everest arrive at base camp between March & April. They spend a few weeks at base camp, acclimatizing to the altitude, taking short day trips, getting to know their companions and, I assume, learning tips and tricks for the dangerous climb ahead.  I can't imagine traversing the … Continue reading Tips & Tricks-Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

The Art of Diminishment

I am painting my townhouse, and the act of painting has plunged me back in time, forcing me to recall how my ex-narcissist began his campaign of diminishment.  It began with our home renovations. I planned all the renovations.   I came up with creative  design ideas to maximize space, I chose all colors, light fixtures … Continue reading The Art of Diminishment

How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person

I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years.  Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band.  In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job.  A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person

Gaslighting: The Gift that Keeps on Giving

I was with my parents the other day. I don't recall the exact conversation, but I remember my mother saying "why on earth would you think that about yourself?"   I told her it is hard to shake negative self-thoughts when it is all I've heard for over 20 years.   She replied "what could … Continue reading Gaslighting: The Gift that Keeps on Giving

Projection

This is embarrassing to admit - even with a MA degree in Psychology I did not understand the power of projection. I loved studying Psychology but honestly, I approached it the way Catholics approach the bible.  The ideas/stories in the bible, according to Catholicism,  are metaphorical.  I don't think I've ever heard a Catholic claim … Continue reading Projection