If you've been following me you know I'm trying to divorce a covert narcissist, with whom I own a restaurant. We had a hearing with a Master and the Masters recommendation, while totally screwing me over, was enough for me to attempt another negotiation. So I sent an offer, in line with what the Master … Continue reading The Narc Never Gives Up
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Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Here is the actual truth about divorce: while both parties come out of it poorer than before, the party with a conscience will walk away totally screwed. Divorce does not turn out the way our media portrays it. My brother likens my divorce to the movie 127 Hours. Based on a real story, this movie … Continue reading Divorce: The Ultimate ClusterFuck
Time
Never have I been more confused about my feeling of time than the past 3 years. Did that happen yesterday or last year? Did I say that today or last week? It's as if the time chip in my brain is on the fritz. I keep searching for it, going round and round in my … Continue reading Time
The Perils of Writing
I often find, when having a conversation with someone, lots of other thoughts arise. So it was this morning at my yoga studio. I had been working on a blog about the studio, and I had sent it to the owners to read before I posted it. Several of my yoga blogs have been posted … Continue reading The Perils of Writing
Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
The Circus versus the Magician I just spent time with my uncle, a bon-a-fide covert narcissist of the somatic sub-type (obsessed with his looks & physical prowess). I had planned to work on implementing boundaries, but it took little time to realize I was fighting a losing battle. At the end of my time … Continue reading Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
Boundaries are Afoot
Tonight I have the "honor" of hosting my uncle, the King of Overt Narcissists (KOON). He has cancer and is getting a 3rd opinion at a hospital near me, so he is spending the night at my house and I'll take him to his appointment in the morning. I was asked to do this … Continue reading Boundaries are Afoot
Are We Our Stuff?
I've spent the last 2 years selling, giving away and trashing most of my "stuff", and it feels great! I love how empty my house looks, I love the freedom I have now that I don't have to take care of so many things, and I love feeling unencumbered. I am still very tied down, … Continue reading Are We Our Stuff?
Let’s Talk FaceBook
A few background facts: I own a restaurant with my soon to be ex (stbx). My savings and good credit partially funded it, I helped open it, I did the books for years, and I showed up when it was understaffed and waited tables. My stbx cheated on me repeatedly during out marriage. He was … Continue reading Let’s Talk FaceBook
Delusion, Meet Reality
I am surrounded by well meaning family & friends, all of whom want the best for me. I am also part of a yoga community, which wants the best for everyone, and I belong to cancer and divorce support groups on FB. All of these sources together have thrust me into a world of delusion, … Continue reading Delusion, Meet Reality
Personality Traits: Both Good & Bad
The Real Me - I've been trying to figure out who I am. I was the bad seed in my family; the one who didn't quite fit but gave others a great laugh (not with, but at). I've worked hard all of my life to not be who I am, and now that I'd … Continue reading Personality Traits: Both Good & Bad
Groomed but Escaped 